A guy with adhd and questions.

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Hello, to make a long story short I’m a guy who after a lot of forgetting and lost paperwork got retested and I have ADHD combined. I’m naturally extroverted and at the community college I go to and work at many people wave or stop to chat. People have told many times that I am smart “cept math fuck that”. And that it can make people feel bad. I try to be a good person and end ever convo with I hope it goes well or have a good day. But I have no true friends. It’s always been like this. I’ve questioned myself with others if I insult others accidentally and that’s when I get a no and the smart speech. Every time I get a girl’s number it ends up at a I just wanna be friends or no reply which I stop after 2 no responses. I’m a bigger guy stocky everyone assumes I played football as a linemen. I’m trying to work on it but the ADHD makes meal prep a bitch and the wild eating is always at night. And I’m not some white night or nice guy to try to get in some pants. I just genuinely want the best for people and I think maybe it throws people off. Idk what I should do. Any sage advice?

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I really like this girl but…

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She has a huge obsession with Disney. I always thought that Disney was aimed towards younger audiences (ages 3-10). She’s in her early 20’s. She has the annual pass, multiple ‘ears’ and she goes to Disneyland A LOT. Don’t get me wrong. She is hands down the most gorgeous and coolest girl I’ve ever met, practically my dream girl. But this Disney obsession makes me a bit uneasy. On the upside, we both like horror films and rock music, so I guess thats ok. Am I jerk for thinking this way? Should I give her a chance? Or is this Disney obsession a red flag?

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3 Skills Work and School Will Teach You To Improve Your Game(& Start A Business)

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3 Skills Work and School Will Teach You To Improve Your Game(& Start A Business)


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Does anyone else get this “power up” feeling when day gaming?

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Guys, the weirdest, yet most alpha shit just happened to me today.

I was day gaming at my local mall, I wasn’t feeling too good after 3 rejections, and as I was heading back to my car I remembered what Mark Manson said about checking your intentions. I briefly paused, reflected on why I was day gaming, and then all of a sudden, an intense, I guess you could say “hyperfocus” came over me. No negative thoughts came into my mind and I had a singular goal: Get laid.

I sarged through my local Target and approached this 21 y/o blonde girl, about 8 on the attractive scale, and while focusing on my intentions, said she was beautiful and I wanted to meet her. She smiled at me and said “I wish more guys said that,” and we started chatting. After telling me she was married, I said my goodbyes and left.

But…

She saw me again on an aisle and *yelled out my name and stopped me*. She asked if I had an XBox account and said we should game together. I was a bit confused and said no. She seemed wary of giving her number out due to her married status, but settled on giving me her Snapchat instead.

I know this may sound assholeish, but I asked if she wanted to go out next week at the local nightclub. She said she had plans and said if we were going out, it has to be spontaneous. Clearly, we have a bored housewife on our hands.

Anyway, point of the story: I would have never gotten this opportunity if I hadn’t checked my intentions. I was bold, non-needy, and incredibly focused on getting laid. Like what James Marshall said, “Once you focus on your intentions, your game skills increase exponentially.”

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Sitting Next to a Girl is Very Important (rather than across from her)

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So today I had my first Day 2 from a direct cold approach (I had some “dates” from cold approach before but it was more indirect). I stopped a girl on the street and I was like “Hey are you from this city? I just moved here and thought you looked really cute so I just had to talk with you… some small conversation and then… hey so I’m going to have to find a girlfriend now that I live here so how about you be my girlfriend and then you can show me around the city (cheeky smile)” So she laughs and is like “ok maybe we can be friends and then see” So I say we should meet up for coffee together and get her number and text her and set a date to meet up for coffee a week later.

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So I meet her at a coffee shop about a five minute walk from my place. As soon as she shows up I compliment her on her dress and tell her she looks very cute today (it was kinda obvious she dressed up for me). So I make my direct intent very obvious from the start. The problem with coffee shops though is that you end up sitting across from the girl rather than next to her. So I’m sitting across from her and I’m trying to do some physical things to “spike up the temperature” after a few minutes of conversation but it feels really hard with this table in between us.

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Like I’m talking about how you can read people’s “energy” by holding their hands and then I’m like let me see your hands and I hold both of her hands with my hands and look into her eyes and say I’m going to tell you about yourself. Then I tell her how I can tell that she is a good person, and how her friends rely on her, and how she is shy but has a hidden adventurous side, and how I think she is really cute, and how her hands are very cold so I’m going to hold her hands to keep them warm… but then the damm table is just too big so it doesn’t feel right to keep holding hands with her in that awkward position. Then after some more small talk I decide to shift back into escalating and compare hand sizes and then hold hands with her again across the table and after a few seconds feels awkward so have to break the physical connection.

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So at this point I know that I haven’t built enough physical comfort to ask her to hang out at my place yet so I’m like lets go for a walk in the park and I want to show her a spot with a really nice view of the ocean. So we walk to the park about five minutes in the opposite direction and I take her to a sort of quiet spot and tell her hey lets sit down on this bench and relax. So now I’m sitting next to her and start doing more hand holding things and now it feels perfectly natural. I put my arm around her and pull her close and I’m holding her hand while telling her I’m taking applications for girlfriends right now and would she like to apply? lol. So then I knew she had to leave by a certain time and my time was almost up so I tell her to close her eyes for a second and give her a kiss before she had to leave.

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Lesson of the day: Sitting next to a girl is important if you want to escalate physically. I’m pretty sure if I had sat next to her in the coffee shop I could have physically escalated and made her feel comfortable and then whispered in her ear about going to hang out at my place and watch a movie and she would have probably went for it, rather than taking her to a park where nothing much could really happen.

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I got a lot of good ideas from this video I was kinda trying to follow his method: [https://youtu.be/JEptbIHCfP0](https://youtu.be/JEptbIHCfP0)

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Your guys ideas and feedback in appreciated!

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[xMODx] Updated Seddit Rules / Posting Guidelines

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**Edit: Get this to #1 spot guys!**

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