I’ve been thinking a lot for a couple of days about the dynamics of *interesting* and unconventional conversation topics and this sub seems to be a treasure chest full of it.
In addition to this, I’m also looking for a style of conversation that appears to be random and fictional – something that just keeps giving. I was talking to a gent in a previous thread where he mentioned he used to come up with fictional tales of how he was in the Bolivian Intelligence Agency and detailed his adventures in a way to both have something to talk about and make the girl laugh.
I’d also like to know an unconventional method to open a with a girl without starting with her name. I came up with up a ‘look at that couple there, how long do you think till she slaps him” and something on those lines.
1. How do you approach a potential girl when they’re in groups?
2. When there’s a lull in the convo, I simply stare at her with a half smile. This generally goads her to come up with something. I’d like to have a proper backup- what’s yours?
I live in LA and go to a local junior college. There is a high concentration of very beautiful women there as you would expect. I want to know if there are downsides to approaching there that outweigh that advantage.
I feel like I am too old for the women who are the typical college age (18 – 21). I am back in school after having some very rough years in which I did not date. I am 28 now. I am hesitant to approach for fear of seeming inappropriate. Approach anxiety for me often stems not from fear of rejection by the woman but from fear making the woman uncomfortable and causing an awkward incident in public.
Unfortunately I do want a woman 23 or younger. I feel like I missed when I was younger and busy struggling with other things. I suspect there will be a large difference in maturity and life experience that will make it difficult to connect at all to women that age. I may end up discovering I do not really want a woman that age but I need to find that out for myself.
I am looking for opinions on whether approaching at a junior college is advisable at all and opinions about whether I should be pursuing women ages 18 – 21 as a 28 year old in a setting that is traditionally considered a place for young people.
If the answer is yes to one or both of these questions then is there anything that should be done differently in this situation than what would typically be done in a standard cold approach scenario? There are definitely opportunities for warm approaches and situations where I will see the same woman many times throughout the semester instead of having that one cold approach then never seeing her again.
I have been talking to this girl for a while and have met once. Had a decent date and said we would like to see each other again. I have tried to arrange a second meetup twice now, but she has given excuses for both times. I’m not emotionally invested, just trying to have something casual so I don’t really care too much about dropping it, but she is my only option at the moment so…. should I keep trying or just cut it off?