I got approach anxiety today. l can happen to the best of us.
Some woman sat alone in a cafe, scrolling on her phone.
Atheletic, yet glamorous. Intimidatingly beautiful.
We were the only people on in the cafe , save for some elderly couple in the corner and a half a dozen bored staff members stood incredibly close to her.
I didn’t want to do it. The heart rate rose. The excuses flooded in.
Here are some thoughts that went through my head that convinced me to do it anyway.
# I remembered how shit it feels to pussy out.
Worse than trying and failing. Every damn time.
# Knowing who your perfect 10 is…
Recently I was asked to describe my perfect 10. It’s important to know exactly what you’re looking for physically, because then there are no excuses strong enough to justify not opening.
# Remembering all the previous times you’ve been nervous and it’s opened smooth…
Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
# Remembering all the previous times you’ve been nervous and it’s not opened at all…
Nothing terrible happened, and you still felt better for shooting your shot.
# Our community
I’ve co-launched a Telegram group for men who want to become incredible with women. Hundreds of guys sharing their success stories and getting feedback on their sticking points. A real brotherhood. I’m regularly helping get over approach anxiety in this group. It’s a cool little tool for when people are nervous in the moment….Still, who the fuck am I to give advice to anyone if I can’t go over and say hi to this girl.
If you ever post advice on Seddit (or any community) and scoff at other people’s posts, you should feel the same.
# So over I went…
Dropped the standard daygame opener and she looked like a deer in the headlights.
Plowed through by explaining what I liked about her appearance (athletic yet glamorous). She still looks alarmed.
I tried to break the tension with a joke, asking if I recognised her from the Olympics. She laughed and the set went super-smooth from there.
We chat for 20 minutes or so, and it appears we have no interests in common. I said I’d like to ask her out, but i’m not sure what we’d actually do together. She says she has a 60-year-old white boyfriend anyway (I live in Thailand, go figure).
Anyway, this outcome further highlights that daytime approaches really are no big deal.
Make good decisions this weekend, guys!
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