After 9 years of relationship (my first and only one), I [28yo] have been ditched up. It turned out now that I have absolutly no skills into seduction.


After a 9 years relationship, my ex-gf ditched me for another guy.

I’ve always been honnest to her, never cheat, never tried to.

Now that I’m single, it turn out that I spent almost my whole twenties stucked in a relationship and have never tried to get with girls.

At work I do get along with girls, they really seem to appreciate me, but not in a romantic way. I’m a nice, respectful guy. Inoffensive.

I’m currently trying tinder, but I find it annoying. I don’t know the world of DMs. Don’t know what to say, how to say, etc …

I don’t even know how to meet girl IRL since I’m not into clubbing.

If anyone feel the same, or get passed through the same things, a bit of help would be appreciated.


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Last Night’s Dream


Last night I had a dream. I dont remember much but it apprars the scene was set in Old Harbour, a specific road in coose to Marlie Mount. My Dad must have been working to build the road with some foreigners. They asked me to mix a chemical solution, somethig went wrong and a fire was started. Luckily it was put out. I coulf sense my Dad’s dissapointment with me.

The scene then transformed to a Boardroom meeting where everyone there knew about my accident. I failed to make a good first impression and was dissapointed.

The scene then transformed to a ball room. A Fashion Show or something was kept there. I was assisting cleaning up. A male friend, I cant remwmber who, offered me cake, Id given mine away and gave away this piece too. Then as we were cleaning up, I saw Keisha in a wedding dress. I started hugging her in a usual friendly manner, lifted her up playfully, slid her back down and hugged her. To my surprise, she hugged me for longer and longer, then it became more than a hug, an embrace. It felt like the warmth I had been searching for my entire life. The crowd started applauding. I slowly kissed her cheek, almost on reflex, like my body wasn’t mine anymore….but ours. We kissed, almost like a movie coming to real life. That single moment, that couldnt have been more than a minute, felt like 20 years, as I embraced and was felt love with the one woman I was meant to be with. It was like a never ending dream filled with genuine love, hope, comoassion, bliss, struggle and happiness, all while the music played in the background. Even with our coworkees there, and we knew the repercussions, the consequences, but for that one moment…the world stood still for us. Nothing else mattered, not history, not war, not present, not future, nothing but uUS and me realizing, the woman of my dreama had been right in front me the whole time.

Then I woke up.


I’ve been alone for so long. For this brief momemt, in my dreams, I remembered what it was like to finally not only to love but to have someone truly love me too. Haven’t felt this way in about 9 years.

In real life, Keisha is with a wealthier and better man and I….havent been with anyone for about three years.



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Anyone looking to cuddle (Palmdale)


Looking to hang out with any female. Bored and off today at work. So looking to do anything. Can drive and come to you or we meet up somewhere. I’m a guy

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What’s it going to take to sack up and cold approach?


A little context to my question (feel free to skip to the end if not interested in my background).

I do not want to sound boastful but I’ve never had issues attracting and sleeping with women. I was in a very social fraternity in college which allowed me to intuitively understand the mindset of abundance and develop my game.

Since graduating and starting to work full time, I do not enjoy drinking and going out near as much, which was an important source of lead traffic.

I did dating apps for a while and got matches/dates/hook ups but it felt so bland and boring.

I was turned onto cold approach by first watching thatwasepic on YT and thought the idea looked exhilarating.

So long story short I checked out that Todd guy, RSD, and my favorite is Tom torero because he is so practical.

The last step is just doing it. I’ve tried recruiting friends to game with, complimenting girls as I walk by to build momentum, etc. I just haven’t taken the next step to start conversations consistently.

Does anyone have any different tricks or tips to just sack up so I can talk to the copious amounts of pretty girls I see on a regular basis?

I know that rejection is nothing serious (I’m in sales so I face rejection every day).

To be specific, does anyone have a quick psychological exercise to combat the made up stories we tell ourselves before deciding not to approach?

Many thanks


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List of date ideas?


Hey lads,

One of the most challenging things in dating, I find, is to constantly come up with interesting dates. Are there any /r/seduction approved lists of date ideas out there? Thank you so much! 🙂


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[FR] Mill Ave squad up with u/Aghayden and another RSD wing from the Phoenix Inner Circle. K-close/ #close with HB7



– Cute college girl #-close/ k-close after damn near having a state crash from running into an ex in the bar

-Number close on a 2-set of volleyball Cali blondes, my target being a surprisingly nerdy Marvel fan, much to my pleasure


**Lessons Learned from the Night**

-The importance of having good wings to enhance your game and push your skills to the next level

-External as well as internal motivation and keeping social momentum

-Adapting to the flow of the night and keeping your state up

-The importance of tracking goals during your pickup journey



My wing who goes by Lucifer Morningstar and I met up with Aghayden at an Irish pub to discuss infield recording. Aghayden is pretty damn well versed in game and is an approach machine. My style is more low-key (think RSD Madison), but I’ve been pushing myself to up my energy in set. Having gone out the night before to do some solo game, I was looking forward to burning down town with some wings. Anyways, after about an hour at the pub of shooting the shit, we roll out to the first bar to warmup.



**First Bar**

We walk up to the usual warmup spot, and I can feel the gears in my head start to sluggishly turn. Probably didn’t help that I was shivering from the cold, so my main concern was getting indoors before running anything as I knew my mouth would fail me at that point. Right as the group was entering the side entrance of the bar that leads to the dancefloor/ club section, I spot a 2- set, a big-tittied HB7 Latina and a HB7 white chick, whom enter the line right after us. Lucifer spots me staring at them, so he pushes me to make it the first approach of the night. I walk up and open the white chick asking how she is handling the cold so well with no sleeves, she remarks how she’s from Canada and I shoot the shit with her before entering the bar. Looking back, my target was the Latina, and I should have been direct from the start. I also had a chance to reopen on the dance floor, but I was still inside my head at the time. Nonetheless I moved on towards the patio area with Lucifer, as Aghayden was in set with what turned out to be a female dating coach (must have been RSDSarah running bootcamp haha).

So Lucifer and I run a few more sets to get out of our heads that end up leading to nowhere, but I’m gradually getting into my groove. A HB8/hired gun working at the bar walks up to see if any of us need any drinks, and I decide that it was a good time to troll a bit so I tell her my usual vampire shtick (“I’m a 120 vampire. Do you happen to have any blood on tap”). Lucifer and Aghayden add in the conversation, which helps anxiety go back down. A few more exchanges of banter and the hired gun walks away, but I’m finally getting out of my head. I wing Aghayden with a 2-set of HB6, one who looks like Linda Hamiliton from the Terminator series, but I decide to bounce as my face is getting toasted by the porch torch they have on the patio. Things really take a turn for crazy at this point as I link up with Lucifer and we’re chilling on the dance floor. I run into another hired gun/HB8 who I #-closed the night prior, and I see if she wants to link up in 20 minutes to change venues, but she and her posse were heading down to Old Town Scottsdale. I spot a 2-set, HB7 and HB5. HB5 is whispering in HB7’s ear, looking me dead in the eye, and alternating between pointing at me and her friend. Seeing another chance to troll, I walk up asking if I’m about about to get auctioned off to her friend. She replies by telling me her friend is trying to get 21 kisses before the end of the night for her birthday and I pull Lucifer over, as chaotic and non-nonsensical shenanigans is his forte. We shoot the shit for a bit, and tell them to meet us at the next location, but they’re going to another bar instead. No big deal, but atleast we have them seeded for later. We text Aghayden and bounce to the next bar.


**Second Bar/ Run-in with the Ex/ State Crash Recovery with K-close**

At this point, I’m fully warmed up, and the social juices are flowing through my head. Lucifer and I head up to the bar, as Aghayden is still on his way, and as I walk through one of the tabled areas, I meet eyes with a Native American chick who looks strangely familiar. I maintain eye contact for a few more seconds before I realized it was the roommate of a fling that went south recently. “Fuck!” is all that runs into my head. Sure enough the “ex” walks out of the bathroom a few seconds later (I’m at the bar, and looking out of the corner of my eye) and I feel daggers.


State crash imminent.


Lucifer brings me back to reality and out of my head, and I order a water to swig down. I’m on a roll and there’s no way that I was going to derail my night just because of that. I down the water, head towards the dance floor. At this point I’m still reeling, as I start imagining my sets fucking up in front of the Ex. I do a weak hand of God on a 5-set of HB7/8 that goes nowhere. Quickly I spot a two set, with a HB7 in bell bottom pants that makes her cute little ass perk out. This time I hand of God her with conviction, and she comes over. I ask her if she just stepped off of a time machine and she laughs. We shoot the shit, with me kino-ing heavy, and her reciprocating. I ask her what’s she doing out on the town, and she tells me it’s her friend’s birthday. I up the energy of the group and high-five the birthday girl, another HB7. My target, the 70’s girl, tells me that her friend is turning 22, and I ask her how old she herself is. It’s here I come off a bit uncalibrated, as I tell her she better not be 17 or I’ll call Chris Hansen. She initially says she’s 22, then jokingly says 17. I act all shocked and weirded out to joke a bit and say, “That’s okay, seeing how I’m a 120 year old vampire. I’m perpetually 16 years old like Edward Cullen.” She’s chuckles, and the bounces. Fail.

Aghayden meets up with us as this point, and I relay the details of the last 20 minutes to him. It’s about 12:45 at this point, and we’re looking to bounce to another bar, when 70’s girl comes out. I yell out to her, and she comes to me. I reassure her that I’m not a minor to build some comfort. I ask her to change venues with me, but she says she needs to find birthday girl. I tell her to swap numbers with me, and then I kiss her hand. Lucifer and Aghayden tell me to go for the makeout and I pull over back over to me and we makeout for a bit. We bounce.


**Third Bar/ Mic’d up/ Marvel Nerd Volleyball Blondes**

My state is riding high, and at this point, Aghayden mic’s me up to record some infield. I approach an Asian HB8 who was moderately interested with my direct opener (Black & Yellow callback), but she ends up walking off. We step into the bar and I see the 21 kisses, 2-set. I re-open and HB7 recognizes me. Lucifer comes into set, and I hand it off to him as he had more rapport going on earlier. I spot two Blondes looking peculiarly tall and I approach them, positioning myself between them and saying we look like a reverse Oreo cookie. They laugh and I shoot the shit for a while. With how loud the club was, I knew I was going to have some trouble holding the set down, so I call Aghayden over to assist. He was recording my infield with his phone, but being the great wing he is, decided to come over anyways. I talk to the HB7 for some time, asking some normal questions. I hear Aghayden tell the HB8 friend that I’m a huge Marvel fan due to my Black Panther necklace I was wearing. As it turns out, HB8 is also a huge Marvel fan and we switch targets in order for me to nerd out on her. My mistake here was not pushing the envelope, as I probably could have pulled that night. There were loads of IOI’s (facepalm), and my target was from out of town so it would not have been hard to seal the deal and drive her back to HB7 place in the morning. ***Lesson: Push the envelope, and burn the set down if you have to.***

At this point, I spot this high energy, half Chinese/half Mexican HB8 who is looking hot af. I hand of God her over and ask where she is from as I notice she has her passport in her back pocket. She tells me that she lost her ID and is using her Passport as ID. She’s fucking high energy as fuck, so I’m having some trouble bantering with her. However I notice a split second IOI she gives to Lucifer, and I jump on the opportunity to pass her off, as he might have better luck than me. I introduce him as my Irish friend and he pulls out his Northern Irish accent, she buys it completely. Aghayden and I walk off as Lucifer and the HB8 start to makeout. I run one more set, and then we reconvene and bounce from the bar. We run some game on a Cardi B doppelganger HB7 and her friend. We try to get them to bounce with us to the first bar, but they end up walking away. We head back to the first bar

**Finale/ Street Game**

We get back to the first bar and Lucifer runs game on a Taylor Swift doppelganger hired gun who’s an HB8. We then run into a 3-set of chicks celebrating a birthday (HB6,HB6, HB5) anf shoot the shit before finally bouncing to do street game. Craziness is ramping up, as I’m embracing the chaos that is the post closing time Mill Ave. I do some high energy sets on a Kendall Jenner doppelganger HB8, a 3-set I named Charlie’s Angels, and a Rosario Dawson look alike. I even trolled a bit with a girl who was talking to the cops about a lost phone haha.

Overall, not a bad night. It had it’s ups and downs, but we were able to keep the momentum going and work synergistically with one another. If any of you are in the Phoenix area, I would highly advise gamin with Aghayden as he will hold you accountable.

Lucifer, our wing Zeus,and myself (T’challa Uchiha) frequent Mill Ave in Tempe and OT Scottsdale, and we’re always looking for guys to game with. Feel free to follow us on our Youtube Channel, [TheDapperLifestyle](

Shoutout to u/Aghayden, follow him for some great pickup tips on his [Youtube](


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Looking for wings in San Francisco


Looking for wings, and by natural extension, friends, in San Francisco.

I also lift. Lifting buddies welcome too.


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First one night stand – college what comes next?


Well boys I had my first ons last night. Talked to her for about a week. She’s in a couple of my classes and we hit it off pretty well. Both skiers and had some other common interests. Hit her up on Friday night and went over to her place. Hung out and watched shows for a while. Then of course had sex. Woke up the next morning and put on my cothes and said goodbye and thanks for having me over (might’ve rushed out a bit too quick). Anyways I was looking for a friends with benefits kind of thing or even just friends (seemed like she had the same ideas) so I hit her up later next morning and never got a response. Again on Sunday I sent her a snap chat saying what’s up and she ignored it. Not sure what to do now. I’m not much of a one night stand guy and I get a little emotional with girls. Not sure what to do. Just chalk it up as a good night? Or try and talk to her after class? I don’t want to push it so not really going to put myself infront of her if she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.


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