Questions for School Project

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Hi, I’m a university student researching your community (in a broad sense i.e. the seduction community in general) for a project specifically related to “Discourse Communities” as defined by Swales in [this](https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/778e/5c87e6041903980d25449c9a2972947a351e.pdf) paper. My assignment is to understand the history, the language, and the structure of a given community, and to that end I will pose the following questions:

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1. Is the novel *The Game*, by Neil Strauss, still considered to be a good general resource to those in the seduction community?
1. If not, what are some good resources to understand the modern seduction community?
2. What other communities would you consider yourself a part of currently? Self-Improvement, “PUA”, etc.
3. What other large online seduction communities currently exist outside of Reddit
4. How did you first hear about seduction “in general” (as a Discourse Community)?

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I can also answer any other questions you might have about my project, although, I will probably reply sparingly.

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Can’t believe she might be falling for me.

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So quite some time ago I saw a girl on a photo of a friend of mine and I thought she was one of the most beautiful girls I’ve ever seen. I told him, tell her I think she’s really beautiful. I thought I’d probably never meet her. One day at a party she actually was there and I was nervous as hell, introduced myself anyways. She seemed disinterested, apparently had a bf, and knew i liked her from that photo. It was a little awkward to say the least.

Fast forward: I swallowed some sadness, we became friends with her through mutual parties, I let the idea of us being together slide and I continued my life, had other dates and flirted around.

Now she is thinking of breaking up with him. And last night I gave a party and invited her too. She was kinda teasing me, I was teasing her. I think she tried to test my confidence telling me I’m not successful with girls, that I can’t play pool and other crap, I didn’t budge and she started to really show some signs she’s interested in me.

Now she’s the kind of girl that always has boys swarming around her and always is in some kind of relationship.

I’m great at being me, focussing on my life and I don’t really care too much about girls. And ironically that attracts a lot of girls.

Now my problem is, I do care about her and I always seem to screw things up when I get to this point. When I start to catch feelings.

Do you guys have any advice for me?

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Got rejected brutally

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Just something I wanted to share with you guys.

I went through a harsh breakup 6 months ago and am just starting to get back into the game.

Two days ago I was on a night out with some friends and naturally we were also looking out for girls we could chat up and maybe even take home with us.

The first rejection went like this: My friend and I were standing next to some girls and he turned to them and said: “May I introduce you to my friend…” and before he even finished the sentence the girl took a look at me, just said “no” and turned around.

The second rejection was when we went to a quieter part of the bar and I saw a girl sitting with her friends, so I just went up to her and introduced myself. Immediately she got extremely defensive and told me basically to fuck off. I was a bit perplexed by her angry tone and stood there dumbfounded for a few seconds, when even her friends came up to me and told me also in an extremely rude tone that she wasn’t interested and I should piss off.

Well, I’m telling this story because this is probably the biggest fear of most beginners in the pick up game: not only was I immediately shut down, both times it was in an embarrassing and a bit humiliating way.

I had two ways to react: either I could get self conscious and stop trying at all for the night, or I could own that shit, laugh about it and continue having an awesome night.

I chose to take the second path: I owned that shit, told my friends about the epic ways I was just shut down twice, had a good laugh about it with them and continued to chat up girls. I ended up talking and dancing with two hot chicks throughout the night and even got the number of one of them.

Moral of the story is, don’t be afraid to talk to a girl just because you are afraid of being rejected. It really just doesn’t matter at all. The ways I was rejected could be considered extremely embarrassing, people all around me saw and heard me getting rejected, but ultimately it didn’t matter at all. Just don’t take it seriously and realize that everybody has a type and there are always girls that will reject you, just don’t let it pull you down.

That’s all I had to say, hopefully this will help some of you overcome your fear of rejection.

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Qualifying Girls Before The First Date

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Hi everyone,

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I had a really bad first date where I admittedly made some mistakes, but also I think factors out of my control were working against me. In order to avoid having this happen again, I want to get better at “qualifying” girls before our first date. I live in New York and work in finance so i’m not short on money. I also live in Soho so i’m within walking distance to most of lower manhattan. My main thing is though that I’m still fresh out of school so I don’t want to waste money on dates that will inevitably not go anywhere. So far I’ve come up with three things….

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1) If a girl is not willing to meet up with you in the evening, then don’t spend any money.

I’m fine with dates walking around the city / park, but for day time / casual dates, i’ve found that the success rate of getting a second date is super slim. My theory is that a day time date has a vibe of being casual and friendly, which kills the mystery involved in first meeting a new potential sex partner. The only time I ever got a follow up date after a coffee meetup was in college during a school break where most of campus was empty. Limiting day time dates to free activities will help me be sure to not waste money in the event that these girls ghost me. Which brings me to my next point.

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2) Never go out on a date with a “time line”.

What I mean by this is that if a girl is like ” yeah i’d love to meet but i’ve got x commitment with my friends later on so lets just meet for an hour or so”.

Essentially the way I see this is that again, the attraction and sexual vibe is killed by the time hanging over your head. The vibe of the date becomes less of “i wanna get to know you” and more of “what should i talk about for an hour before this is over”. Not to mention that there is about a 5% chance that these dates end up in me getting laid. The only way i’ll go on these in the future is if I get to choose the venue so I have somewhat of a chance to escalate.

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3) If a girl doesn’t drink alcohol, or says she’s not really into going out, next her immediately.

I’ve been around long enough to know that even girls who say they want relationships are open to hook ups, but I’ve never gone on a date with a girl who was hesitant about getting drunk where I’ve had any kind of success. As douchey as that may sound to write off a girl just cuz she doesn’t like drinking, the numbers don’t lie.

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TLDR: I live in New York, One of the most expensive cities on the planet, and I want to figure out ways to determine the likelihood of a girl hooking up with me prior to starting the dating process. This post obviously doesn’t apply to me going out to bars at night but I do a solid mix of that plus tinder, hinge, etc.

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If anyone has advice on good questions to ask or ways to get an idea of how willing/ quickly a girl is willing to have sex, I’d be happy to pick your brains. Help a friend save money lol

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I learned last night a quick way to flip rejections is saying, “it’s okay I’m gay anyways”. In a funny, sarcastic but light hearted tone. The girls think it’s hilarious and it keeps the venue on your side. Amazing tool for coming off less gamey and more fun. What do ya’ll think?

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I learned last night a quick way to flip rejections is saying, “it’s okay I’m gay anyways”. In a funny, sarcastic but light hearted tone. The girls think it’s hilarious and it keeps the venue on your side. Amazing tool for coming off less gamey and more fun. What do ya’ll think?

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How to talk/flirt with shy girls?

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It’s kinda tough to talk to someone that doesn’t have the same energy as me or atleast try to match it

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Do attractive girls get approached more often at clubs/bars?

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Background: I always have been very insecure, mostly because I never really had a boyfriend (I am 23 🙈)

However, lately I have been going out to some bars / clubs and I notice I get approached by a lot of guys. Last night it even got annoying, guy after guy was talking to me and I just wanted to dance haha. Also another guy came up to me and said something like you’re really beautiful but you don’t know it/are shy and that he found that sexy? lol

Does this mean anything, like do guys just approach every girl or only the ones they find attractive?

Sorry if this sounds like bragging, but it is a genuine question. I’m not used to getting attention

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