I’ve been talking to a girl on Snapchat this past month, the attraction seemed to be fairly mutual for about 2 weeks and it suddenly dropped off once I showed my cards (I said I thought she looked cute).
She wouldn’t open my messages for 23 hours and it was only until I waited 24+ hours and ended our streak that I started to get back on track and the text time was more reasonable.
Valentine’s day comes and with no provocation she opens my message I sent at night and doesn’t reply to it. I figured “she isn’t interested, I’m just not going to push anymore and forget about it.” Around 6 days later she responds to my story with just a simple “LOL” with something she found funny. I felt like that wasn’t a very good conversation starter so I just replied something generic and when she replied I left her on read (it was another short one word response).
That was yesterday and today I finally just sent “we should hang out when I come to X college”. (This had been a trip I had been planning for some time, as I go to a different University from her, and was planning on visiting said University because I’m planning on transferring there later, and her and our mutual friends go there as well and I wanted to see all of them again.) She replies around 20-30 minutes later “yes! I’m sure ‘X mutual friend group will get together at some point”
This is clearly a deflection, I know she’s not that dumb. What I need to know is what to reply, do I clarify more by firmly but respectfully stating “I was talking about just us”? Or should I just not answer her at all? It isn’t a long shot at all that our mutual friends would get together when I come down, but this just feels like a friend zoning situation.
For some more background info: We only recently started talking to each other, we had known each other for a while but rarely talked to each other and she rarely hung out with my friend group. Her boyfriend and her broke up around 3 months ago. I decided to pursue her because I felt some pretty strong attraction the last time we hung out together in person.