I went out today rocking a punk rock type look. I never dressed like this and thought I’d give it a try. I improved my confidence so much to the point where I didn’t care what people thought of me. The first store I went into was Costco. I locked eyes with about 5 girls. After that I went over to Safeway and made eye-contact with about 3 more girls. The cashier started flirting with me and sending me IOIs and I started to flirt back and talk to her. I still have problems pulling though. I can do it in a social circle but it’s hard when I’m out and about doing my thing. You can dress nice but end the end it all comes down to if you can approach or not. Most of the girls where either Asian or Latina. I could never get Asian girls to look at me even if I tried. Latina’s would but not Asian. I’m started to figure this all out finally. It all comes together in the end. I practiced eye contact, body language, vocal tonality, approaching, touching, and now style which plays a huge part.
Me and my ex broke up a little over a year ago and I honestly made a lot of mistakes trying to her her back like begging crying gifting etc. I went in and out of no contact making the same mistakes but this time around when I contacted I did all that I could do to not bring up the past and I did great I talked to her for the past 2 weeks just as friend and we both flirted and she even would text me “good morning have a great day :)” so I felt like I was getting some where this time finally we’ll we had a date set up
For yesterday after I got off work and she went all day without texting me and an hour after the scheduled date she canceled and said her aunt have her a surprise visit ( they live 6 hours part) I asked her how long she was visiting for and she said idk so I’m assuming it’s a bs excuse but I played it cool and say well hey maybe next time we can get together and have some
Fun. Any way today rolls by and I started feeling a little needy and I sent her the can I ask
You something text she said yea of
Course I basically said hey I love you and I have made a lot of great Changes in my life and talking to you lately has been great we finally
Get along its bringing back the good memories but I see myself getting needy with you again which got me here in the first place I guess I’m just trying to see where do we stand. She replied you’re a real special person in my life but at this point, i’m not ready to pursue anything else other than friendship right now. I replied I understand and I would love to be friend but I just don’t think I can because I truly love you and being your friend and not your lover will just be hard and hurt I appreciate you telling me that and hey I’d love to be your boyfriend again and just let me know if you change your mind. Did I handle this right? Should I have done something different how can I make myself to be congruent with that I said?