This is my personal system for getting laid on the first date. Works 100% of the time they get to my house…

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Field Report Day 1 of 100

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My only goal here is become more comfortable talking to and approaching women. Over the next 100 days I plan double the number of women I approach daily every 10 days. Starting with just one a day. As small adjustments can make significant change over time. The first 10 – 30 days, I’m not trying to get numbers or get laid. I’m working on my social anxiety, and that’s it. F*ck your bro speak, and F-close bullsh!t. I’m looking for encouragement, and solid advice to my question below.

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Day one:

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Went to a little local coffee shop to read a book. I’m the classical introvert, and reading is my happy safe place.

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The plan of action:

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Take up space, and maintain good posture. During chapter breaks or natural pauses look for IOI(s) primarily focusing on eye contact.

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Report:

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Noticed that two girls sitting next to each other at different points looked my way. I made eye contact but kept the basic death stare or “resting bitch face,” I usually maintain. (oops) I decided this was my moment. My heart started to race, I became fluster, fidgety, and could feel my fight or flight response kick in. I took a deep breath in and exhaled slowly to even my tone and voice. I put my book away, and walked over. She had on headphones, so I put my hand up in a waving or stop motion. She responded immediately and took off one of her headphones. I told her I think shes cute and had to come over to say hello. She said thank you, and seemed a bit shocked. I asked what she was working on, and we talked a bit about her major. Feeling good about the interaction; I politely said, “nice to meet you, have a good day,” and left.

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My god, I never thought that, the rush of adrenaline after would be so gratifying.

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Necessary Work:

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1) I need to recognize when the right time to leave is. I think I bailed out a bit early, and should’ve asked for the number or “instant date,” but ran away instead.

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2) Went almost instantly into interview mode. Leading to her interest trailing off after the 2nd – 3rd question. I need to remember to have fun, and be playful.

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3) If a lady makes eye contact, I need to remember to smile. I quit smoking a couple of months ago, and my teeth are getting whiter by the day. There’s still the little voice of insecurity there, and I need to work on it.

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Improvement Question:

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For whatever reason I (27M) feel awkward hitting on undergrads (18 – 20). Once I learned she was still in her sophomore/junior year; I bailed out. My rule of thumb is if she’s younger than 21, I bail. I live next to a university, and the difference between (18 – 20) V.S. (21 – 2X) is unnoticeable for me. How can I validate that a girl is a “proper age,” during the interaction? My first thought is to ask her out for a drink, and wait for the “I’m not old enough,” response.

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I will combine my next 10 days / 10 interactions. I’m posting this first report as my breaking out moment; my immovable object; my declaration to be the man I know I am; to stop lurking and start doing. Be positive, and helpful or F*CK 0FF.

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Using self-deprecation

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Self deprecation, especially in humor, is a divisive topic. Some guys will tell you never to do it because it lowers your value. I disagree. Sometimes, self deprecation can come across as seeking validation. Like when a girl posts a selfie with the caption “I’m so ugly” she’s clearly fishing for compliments. This is extremely low value, and doing anything like this will absolutely torpedo your interaction. Or, if you make several self-deprecating jokes in a row, it will start to come off like you’re actually quite insecure and hide behind humor as a shield.

But when done correctly, self deprecation can be extremely high value. Specifically, self deprecating humor can be a very important tool to demonstrate modesty. This is a very important topic because often when guys are trying to demonstrate value they come across as conceited. If you’re trying to build value by talking about accomplishments, successes, talents, etc then adding in a dash of self deprecation can show that even though you have achieved all this you are still humble and grounded. This makes you much more respectable in a woman’s eyes, and will make your value even higher. If you want examples of how trying to build value by talking about your achievements can go poorly, look at r/humblebrag. The cringe you feel is the same cringe a girl will feel if you start droning on about how awesome you are.

So, what’s the right way to go about it?

Simple. Brag, then self deprecate. Talk about a way that you are awesome, then use self deprecation. An important note, don’t self-destruct your accomplishments with self-deprecation. IE, don’t tell her how you got this huge award at work, but you actually just nap all day at work. Further, your self-deprecation should be ridiculous. The difference between self-deprecating humor and a cry for help is whether or not you actually think it’s true

An example of good self-deprecating humor: if you were talking to Bill Gates and he started talking about how he founded Microsoft, then was like “but I dropped out of college, so what do I know?”

It’s funny because it clearly doesn’t matter. Dropping out of college would not possibly make Bill Gates insecure because the dude could fucking buy Harvard if he wanted to. For a more relatable example, one that I use is about where I’m from. I grew up in Phoenix, but now live in Chicago. I will sometimes make jokes like “that’s what simple people from Phoenix like me believe” or something. Because a) being from Phoenix isn’t actually a bad thing and b) I don’t even live there anymore so it’s not like it’s something that actually bothers me. No one’s going to go “eh this dude is really fucked up from growing up in Phoenix” after that.

**TL;DR Self deprecation in game is bad if you overuse it or it hits too close to home, but if used right can be a great tool to not look like an arrogant asshole.**

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LOOKING FOR WINGMANS IN ANKARA TURKEY

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Hey guys, I’m in Turkey and looking for wingmans to hangout in Tunus, Kizilay or Bahceli. If you are interested text me back.

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