Have any of you ever hit the night clubs by yourselves? Is it good or bad not to have a wing man and what were your results?
So I started college this year and so far I haven’t had much success with women. I thought college would be different, but it’s the same as always. I’m at a loss. I’ve tried joining some clubs but haven’t met anybody. Nobody really talks in class. I’m not even sure where the parties are since my school is in a weird environment.
What should I do? Not to toot my own horn but I’ve been told that I’m pretty attractive and have a good personality. A lot of women seem surprised when I tell them with my lack of success with women. Yet when I go out, I never get approached and no women ever seem interested in me.
I need advice. I feel like I’m missing out.
Looking for a women that needs the same as me which is a great time quick one and done….. nothing serious .. send me a text if interested I am 28 young and cute
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Morale of the story at the end.
6:30pm **Get to my hookups:**
At the start of that night my hookup and I hung by a lake at night and the area is pretty safe but it is a dark park. *I heard a girl screaming in the darkness so I told my gal pal to wait there and went to check it out*. What I found was a group of teenagers drinking mostly guys and a couple girls. *They seemed a bit apprehensive about me walking up* and I did think that there was a lot of them and one of me but I walked straight into the middle and looked about. *The girls were drunk rolling around giggling on the ground and the guys seemed chill*, guess it is fine – all I had to do then was confidently honestly explain that “Hey guys sorry to bother you I just heard a girl screaming in the dark and thought I’d make sure everyone was ok but it all seems goode, aye?” They said yeah ‘appreciate you checking’ and I headed back.
9:00pm **Girl in line at McDonald’s:**
Last night I went to hang at a hookups house, at one point we went to get maccas and I saw two girls waiting in line. I went to collect the order alone because well I wanted to hit on these girls (hookup didn’t care so dw). At first though they *stepped away from me a little*, obviously they had noticed that I had noticed them and they were shying away. *I took the gentle approach* and just acted as if yes I saw them but I am just waiting in line looking around the room, you aren’t special. *Eventually they shifted towards me* a little – time to strike. After running an opener about something I was wearing I got good eye contact from one, then she also started playing with her hair. Suddenly the friend says she just got out of a relationship and is single before excusing herself. A lot of you have anxiety but the key is to just not overthink it. They came towards me a bit, they were happy to talk, eye contact, playing with her hair, her friend says she is single… seems pretty natural to me that *I could double check if she is single and she said yes*. Winner. I got her to add me on FB and Insta, by asking if she had her phone and when she held it up I told her “Open up FB” and write “T…” before taking her hand as I tapped “add friend next to my name”. Subtle kino. Then excused myself and went back to hang with my hookup and went back to her place. She was a legit 9/10 like crazy hot – unfortunately between last night and today when I hit her up, she found a boyfriend and informed me of this. So, I called her out on it and left it at that I don’t mind rejection but I do find the lack of effort offensive. Coherent lies aren’t hard to come up with.
10pm **So my hookup has invited another two dudes over:**
The macca’s chick thought it would be easier if it seemed another man is involved. Anyway back to last night, my hookup said *said she had friends coming over, two dudes rock up*… a little jarring but didn’t bother me too much, one seemed cool but one pissed me right off. She had hooked up with the one who pissed me off in the past who we’ll call TheDouche, I mean it’s pretty casual between me and this chick so I am not that phased. Instead I am thinking about seduction and male competition and in terms of success they say it is all about confidence. I was wearing a camo sweatband and TheDouche asks for it and I give it to him for thirty seconds he played around then went back to normal conversation. This felt like a test and I want my shit back, so I reached out and asked for it back and he gave it back – remember don’t hesitate or feel awkward to stand up for yourself when required. Be firm and be direct.
*This guy was drunk and just reached out and grabbed her tits* and she didn’t seem to like it, *but they had fucked before* so I didn’t know if she was ok with it and I was surprised. He shouldn’t have but she made the mistake of hooking up with this fool AND inviting him here, but he could grab her like that cause he had the confidence. She said nothing, the second guy said nothing I said to her “do you want him to stop?” and she really answer and he addresses me asking me “if I thought they were nice tits haha wouldn’t you grab them too?”. I go back to her and leave it at *”I don’t mind if you want him to do that but that is your choice if you want him to stop you need to say no, not be silent. Just say the word and I’ll deal with it.”* Then I addressed him and said *”Sorry if it seems I am a bit serious about this but I used to teach martial arts, I don’t like to see bad shit happen and people getting hurt, plus my sister has been raped, I take this sort of thing seriously. So stop if she says no.”* Guys don’t escalate physically and aggressively like TheDouche did if she seems uncomfortable it is fucked up, I didn’t do any of that shit and she chose me. After she’d kicked them out she thanked me for intervening as she didn’t feel safe.
1:00am **The “breakup”**
Obviously it was casual but even so calling it off is never fun. After I did we went for a late night walk and at one some point starts saying “What if I stabbed you? like in your kidneys you don’t need them, you hurt me a lot… so what would you do?” so while pondering the stab resistance of my kidneys I channeled my inner Clint Eastwood and said “I don’t know what I’ll do, but I do know what the result will be.” she asks what that result will be is, I tell her the truth “One of us will go to prison and the other will end up in hospital. I just don’t know which way round it’ll be.” Anyway now I am safely home and no longer seeing her cause I gotta protect me.
**What is a woman’s place and how should you treat her as a man? A woman’s place is to be someone you care about at least on a human level: If she is attractive like the maccas chick then her place is same as yours – in the line at maccas, so I don’t see how anyone is above anyone else – say hi but don’t push it. In the two-dudes and my hookup example: a woman’s someone you should speak up for when needed, but not someone you speak over. Let her makes her own choices if you don’t like it leave, but don’t leave her in danger. Above everything else as a man the place you should put a woman in is that of fellow human being, so the most important examples here are regardless of fear or jealousy or anger – you keep them safe. Who knows you may end up like that dude who grouped my hookup last night passed out and at her mercy, if you’re awkward she won’t leave you passed out in the street, if you’re an asshole get ready to wake up wherever she left you maybe without your wallet. Remember a woman’s place into to be threatening or hurting you either, watch for the warning signs and get out early. Listen to your mates.**
**P.S.** If you read this as me white knighting or don’t see how this is relevant to getting girls, consider the following. What do you think a girl would think if the guy she was with said *”Sounds like a girl screaming out there in the dark, wait here I am going to go make sure everything is ok”* and then you actually go check to make sure your fellow man/woman is ok and come back and say *”all good I just wanted to make sure no one was hurt, thanks for waiting.”* It will make you look like a pretty awesome guy. Food for thought.