How to open in bars

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So I haven’t really bar gamed in a while, but was invited to go with a friend of mine to see some of his fellow musicians perform at a bar in Miami. I’ve done so much direct daygame, but I know doing the, hey I know this is random but, thing won’t really work in a bar?

My plan is just to be super present and have a good time. But if a girl catches my eye, how should I approach? I’m thinking of just looking at her until we lock eyes and just wait for an AI approach invitation, a smile or something, then just go and introduce myself.

Any advice?

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I have 3 strong self-limiting beliefs that are holding me back mentally. Change my mind with your rejections of my thoughts

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I have 3 specific thoughts that’s hold me back from going out to date and live the life I want with women. I’ve believe this thought so much that I hold them to be the truth, and I know it’s by breaking this warped view of reality that I can succeed.

1. I’m east Asian, therefore I’m not considered attractive by society but seen as the nerdy geeky guy who girls wouldn’t want to date. If I were tall and white I’d have a much better chance at dating.
2. Filling the stereotype, I have a small dick. It’s smaller than the national average of 5 in, and I say to myself, “Well why would a girl want to fuck me if they can’t feel it because it’s so small? They would probably just see how small it is, and then go back to another guy with a bigger dick.” No point in dating.
3. I don’t have a place to bring them back to. I currently live my parents due to financial reasons, far away from the city. I say to myself, if I pick up a girl, I’m not bringing her back to my parents place, over an hour away.

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Some context: I’ve had several girlfriends before, I’m not a virgin, and I’m in my late 20s.

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I know I can date. I know I can pick up girls. But these thoughts specifically make me say, what’s the point? The girl wouldn’t be satisfied with me anyways. Sure, I could go date just being greedy for my own pleasure, but it kills me to know that I can’t physically satisfy women. Especially in this day and age when big dicks are praised from comedy to porn to real life. When I’m hanging out with my female friends, they talk about guys they’ve fucked with big dicks and awesome it is. I can’t be that guy.

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Do I still have a chance with her?

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Went on a date with this girl a couple weeks ago, it went amazing. She initiated making out with me, held my hands etc. Texted her last week to hang out again and she said while I’m awesome and all, she’s not ready to date and needs time since she recently got out of a ltr. I told her I wasn’t looking for anything serious and rather just be friends with benefits, she obviously never replied after that.

Is there anything I can do to recover or just move on?

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What are the best books for urgency towards dating/intimacy/building relationships?

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For example I read “The China Study” to give myself a better perspective on my diet. What are the holy grail books for social engagement, seduction, and why it matters to get things started now?

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