After reading only Tom Torero’s Beginner Guide To Daygame (I didn’t watch his YT movie) I deciced to try these things for myself. This is going to be a long post. But that’s because I want you to help me, so I can do better next time 😉 Enjoy!
First approach happened near my campus. I noticed a girl with curly hair, with which I was writing my language exam. I saw her at the other side of the street, so I waited for her to go through pedestrain crossing. She didn’t notice me, walked past me and then I had a moment of anxiety, but I encouraged myself. Followed her a bit and then stopped her by wheeling in front of her (something what Tom Torero does). I did it nicely, because she stopped and I didn’t notice any sign of stress or fear. She took of headphones and I opened by saying:
“Hi, I know you from that language exam we were writing on friday week ago. That time you were talking with a friend, so when I saw you today I wanted to come and talk with you”
Then I said, that with those curly hair she could be a nice spanish girl, and it made her laugh. Later she told that she is in hurry and then I made a mistake, because I was occupied with what I will say next: she just asked “Facebook?”. I presumed she was asking, if I stalked her on FB or something, but it could be just an asking for just my facebook, so we could talk later. Well, I ignored it and told, that I thought she is an ukrainian girl, since in that language she was speaking with some friend before. She said, that she’s not ukrainian, but polish, and unfortunately I freezed out a bit. Instead of saying something like “wow, so how many languages do you speak well” or such I just said “polish? Aaa..” hahaha. She said, she really has to go, so I said bye and that’s the end 😛
2nd approach was at the shopping mall. Before it I made a quick warm-up, I asked some guy about directions and well, he was going in that direciton, so he walked me to the place I asked about and we had a convo. Then I joked a bit with two girls, who were giving away some brochures. I entered a mall and noticed a young looking girl in pink sweater, doing her homework. I looked at her, came up with an idea, what to say to her, and hesitated for like 2 minutes, well, because she looked “busy”. I quickly reminded myself feelings that I feel, when I miss the opportunity and when I come up and break my anxieties. That gave me a boost, so I came to her, and opened:
“Hi, I know it’s unusual to be chatted up by a stranger, but I thought you look sweet, so I came to you to talk a little”
She just smirked, said “okay”, so I sat by her and told about that sweater; that because of its pink colour I guess she’s kinda sensitive and such, because today some girls like to wear adidas trousers to seem tough (well, wtf, now, when I’m reading this, it sounds dumb haha). Of course I didn’t say it that smooth :d She didn’t make any statement, and rather focused on her homewok. So, I asked, if it’s a language course, she replied, that she’s learning english. I followed by saying, that I’d choose a different language, if I was in her place, since I got so fed up with it, that’s why I’ve picked spanish and I felt, that this reply was kinda bad. Well, still she didn’t give any attention, so I decides to give it a last question and then, when nothing changed, after few seconds I said it was nice to try talking to her and I just said goodbye.