If you want to figure out what a good and bad date looks watch Dating Around on Netflix


TL;DR: Watch the show and I mean don’t just watch, but analyze it. Look at body language and tonality. Try to guess who who likes who and who and who you would like. Try to indentify who are most like in that episode and who you want to be in the future.

I just watched Dating Around on Netflix. At first I thought it would be overly dramatic and dumb like most reality tv shows like the Bachelor/Bachelorette. However, it seems quite genuine.

If you analyze their body expressions and tonality you can easily tell who are the attractive dates and who is not. I’m not even looking at the superficial here, a lot of these people are good looking, but look beyond that!

In this show one person goes on similar dates with several other people of their preference. Immediately after they introduce and start talking, try to identify how everyone carries themselves and the vibes they give off. Some people I read right away. I noticed one guy was a condescending, confrontational, and insensitive ass. I thought one woman was crazy, but endearing. I found one woman to be bossy. I noticed these immediately when this person said hi and a few more words. During the date one can recognize when the other person is smiling, making eye contact, touching when they liked each other. If they didn’t, you can see and hear snide remarks (don’t get confused with teasing), uncomfortableness, and trying to be nice but get the date over with, etc. Try to guess who likes one person or another. You may even be surprised at who gets picked for a second date.

Also if you haven’t been on many dates, this is a good look into what good and bad dates are for girls and guys. You may even identify with some of the people! Also look at who you like if you were dating them and **NOT just for LOOKS but PERSONALITY**. Think about the dates from the other perspective too. If you see major red flags in guys you identify with then start making changes! Look out for red flags such as neediness, bossiness, condescension, snappiness, etc. If you find yourself not smiling on dates when you like the girl then remember to smile!

For me I have neediness and forgetting to smile and other IOIs. Both due to depression and anxiety. However, I am going back on meds and therapy to work on this. Last week I slipped down a dark hole last weekend but oh well, shit happens. I finally love and accept who I am but I will not let anxiety and depression control me. Since then I’ve skyrocketed back to being happier than ever after getting support, reaching out and having many epiphanies.

Remember to love yourself and be confident in who you are. Don’t wear masks and screen out girls quickly. Stop thinking “I hope they like me” and start saying “I like myself but now is she good enough for me”. Also don’t chase, if she interested and confident herself she’ll make time for you.


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PRACTICAL advice for men to be more attractive. Sorry if some of this is obvious.


Having been very self-conscious about being super unattractive when I was younger (brown kid in super white english town, super skinny, hit puberty super late), I’ve paid close attention to what makes people more attractive and put effort into becoming more attractive, and recently I feel like it’s worked.

Here’s a run down of practical advice (some of which I’ve followed myself) that I think can make you seem more attractive. I’m not advocating that you change your personality to suit what society sees as more attractive or anything, or that the only reason you should be kind is to get girls – it’s just that I’ve noticed these things are perceived as attractive. And I’m not saying being attractive and being in a relationship will make you happy. If you’re happy to change yourself a little to be more attractive, then I think you should follow the advice. It’s all about how much you’d rather stay true to who think you are. For me, I didn’t change anything that I valued about myself.

General Tip : Charisma on Command have amazing YouTube videos on applied psychology.


I think the main aspects of being attractive are being funny, confident and positive (more than looks).


**Number one tip : smile more.**


**How can you actually get funnier?**

– **Watch comedies** (recommended – B99, Parks and Rec, etc.) You’ll start to pick up the humour.

– **Follow popular meme pages**. You’ll start to pick up the humour.

– Pay attention to what people around you laugh at. Try and apply that kind of humour.

– If you have to, look up jokes online so that you can tell them randomly or if an appropriate situation arises.

– Experiment. If you’re not a funny person, you’re going to inevitably create some awkward silences, but it’s probably worth it. Eventually you’ll start making people laugh, which will make you feel great and also more attractive.

In general try to avoid dark humour, overtly sexual humour or self-depricating humour, because the first two can make you seem creepy and the third can make you seem less confident.


**How can you actually seem more confident?**

– **POSTURE**. Look up AthleanX’s YouTube videos on posture.

– Body Language. Open body language makes you more approachable. Charisma on Command on Youtube is great for this.

– Try and walk with confidence. If you want to, you can literally look up YouTube videos on walking in a cooler way.

– Actually being more confident. Stop telling yourself you’re not good enough. Tell yourself that you’re the shit (but also equal to everyone else don’t start being a dick). Try and face your fears in social situations. Speak to strangers. Stop procrastinating. Improve yourself generally. Work hard at things. Exercise. Be kinder.


Also I read somewhere that kindness and generosity is seen as more attractive. Obviously you should be those things anyway, but if you’re trying to be a dick alpha male to be attractive, I really don’t think that’s gonna work. [https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/kindness-attractive_n_6063074?ec_carp=2773262034116512143&guccounter=1](https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/kindness-attractive_n_6063074?ec_carp=2773262034116512143&guccounter=1)



In my opinion there are hobbies that make you more attractive.

– Learn to sing well or try to improve your singing. YouTube is great for this.

– Learn to play an instrument, I think an acoustic guitar is the most attractive

– Some kind of martial art / self defence

– Reading.

– Write poetry or prose or something. [https://www.wattpad.com/](https://www.wattpad.com/)


**Physical Attractiveness**

– Follow male models / actors on social media to get an idea of what is generally considered attractive

– Exercise (going to the gym will make you look more muscular so is probably your best option in terms of exercise). I recommend AthleanX on YouTube.

– Take care of your skin, benzoyl peroxide is great, use a moisturiser



– If you’re not sure about whether you like your hairstyle, I recommend copying a famous person’s hairstyle

– You can watch videos about getting and maintaining different hairstyles on YouTube

– Short back and sides generally looks better than leaving everything even length


– If you’re not sure what to ask for at the barbers, show them a picture (of a celeb or of you when your hair looked good)

– Google what fades and tapers and numbers etc mean if you don’t understand them so you can communicate better with your barber

– Leaving your hair a bit longer is usually safer than getting it cut a bit shorter

– Make a Google doc of what exactly you want to ask your barber for in the future if you don’t want to use a picture


– Consider getting your eyebrows threaded/trimmed/shaped or tweezering between your eyebrows



– Shower every morning

**-** use enough deodorant that if you sniff your clothes you can smell it, but you can’t smell it otherwise

– roll-on antiperspirants are the most effective. Apply them at night before you go to sleep. I recommend Loreal Men.



**-** I’m brown and I really believe **certain colours suit you better depending on your skin colour** and eye colour (for me – black, white, khaki)

– You can get an idea of what styles look good from IG models and actors, obviously you probably can’t afford their actual clothes but you can get similar cheaper alternatives. @davidjamesseed does affordable fashion on IG. Asos is great for cheap clothes and has a good variety.

– **When you’re out in public, pay attention to men whose outfits you like and try and copy their style.**

– It may be useful to make a decision between buying fewer more expensive clothes or more cheaper clothes depending on your style.

– check out thread.com, you get personalised free style advice


If you want to seem more attractive to a particular person, try to engage with their interests. Follow who they follow, watch what they watch, read what they read, listen to what they listen to, do what they do. (I’m not telling you to stalk them, please don’t stalk them).


Aaand there you go.


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Texting during the week?


Talked to this girl on tinder, we talked for a few hours, I sent some flirty text, she did too, we set to meet on Saturday.

I’m wondering if I should text her sometime during the week, to be honest I don’t want to because I wanna keep the date interesting and don’t want to know her too well beforehand.
Although I’m worried I’ll come off as not interested in her or she’ll lose interest during the week if we don’t talk.
What should I do?


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Anyone have tips on school/classroom (College) game? Just back into game, older student, interested in stretching my muscles


33 and started college last semester, accomplshed amazing things thanks to PUA but became extremely distant from it (and relationships in general) due to a nasty breakup years back. gained fair amount of weight (285 atm, 220 was my lifelong standard until these last years), lots of confidence lost because of it, but still functioning half decent


Girl next to me is interesting, decided to see what I can accomplish (or fail at)


1st class I don’t think we spoke at all. 2nd class we are put in partners and it breaks the ice, short soft chit chat. had a few moments of charisma and confidence, initiated kino (ALWAYS DO KINO ASAP. ITS SUCH A WALL BREAKER). Kino immediately made her let down a lot of walls and by 3rd class we were chit chatting constantly. She got personal and comfortable fast and started sharing about how her last breakup fell apart. At one point I told her “as someone who’s gone through a nasty breakup for the same reasons (cheating), I can promise you it was a good thing. Maybe itll take 10 years but eventually you’ll understand it was good.” She made eye contact and smiled- “You’re right, I should be happy huh :)” We wound up walking to our cars together chit chatting. During this walk we discussed various other things, just throwing out feelers to learn about one another. Early on she said I look like I’ve got to be no more than 26, then later when walking to cars she told me her age, told her shes older than I expected. We were walking side by side and this made her turn her head and make strong eye contact again, with a slight smile on her face


I realize she’s not into me as of now, but this is all kindling being put in the pit for a potential fire to start


So, question- how do you run game when in a classroom setting? How do you grow interest when we’re supposed to be focused on the class when we’re near each other? How do you get to the point of associating outside of school? phone first? straight to 1 on 1 outing? How to avoid coming off creepy as the weird older guy in his 30’s trying to talk to a younger girl?



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