How does an inexperienced 31 year old get started?

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Like the title says I’m 31 and have almost no relationship experience, have been single for 10 years, and can count on two ands how many times I’ve had sex in the past 10 years. I’ve been addicted to porn most of my life and am working on quitting and doing semen retention but it’s making me go insane. I’m currently on day 42 and the only thing on my mind is how do Iget better with women.

I have no idea where to start, or if I even should start before my brain is rewired and healed from my addiction (I’m worried that might take too long though and I’ve already gone this long without sex and dating that I’m not going to get any better if I don’t do something). So, as a clueless man in his early 30s with basically no confidence or idea how to flirt or approach or anything, where should I start?

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Almost 4 years ago I hit rock bottom with my love life and decided to immerse myself in game. I’m in a serious relationship now, but an offhand comment in another sub led to another Redditor asking me what I learned on my journey. This is what I came up with.

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* Nothing is more important than confidence

If you are a confident man, women will be more attracted to you, more likely to make an effort to continue a conversation and more forgiving of any mistakes you make during an approach.

* Appreciate the process. Don’t expect immediate results.

This is a long process and I can’t count how many men I met during my journey who got into game with the same eagerness as I did, but would soon burnout when they didn’t see the results they expected right away. I suffered through a lot of brutal nights that shook my confidence and left me wondering if I would ever get to where I wanted to be. In these moments I had to remind myself that I wasn’t doing this for immediate gratification and these brutal nights were learning experiences that would pay dividends in the future. If you let the lows knock you out of the game, you won’t get to experience the highs waiting for you up ahead.

* Your opener doesn’t have to anything special as long as you deliver it confidently.

I missed out on countless opportunities because I felt like I didn’t have the perfect opener. Eventually I learned that a simple, but confidently stated, “Hi, I’m SwoleBuddha. How’s your night going?” worked just as well as anything else.

* Be funny, but not a dancing monkey.

Women like funny men, but if all you’re doing is throwing out jokes, you will come across as one-dimensional and won’t build any genuine, long-lasting attraction.

* Don’t give up on an approach just because it doesn’t immediately go well.

Sometimes a girl will be into you from the word go. If this happens, consider yourself lucky. More often, a girl will be intrigued, but skeptical. She won’t appear interested, but she’ll still be standing in front of you. This can be difficult for a beginner because the pressure of continuing the conversation will entirely be on you. If you’re anything like me, you will be overcome with awkwardness and will want to bail. Don’t bail just yet. Sometimes it takes women a minute to warm up to you. You are, after all, a complete stranger, who just struck up a conversation with her. Power through the initial awkwardness and give the woman a chance to show her personality.

* Don’t drink when you go out

It’s expensive and if you’re going out multiple times every week, will be bad for your wallet and your health. Also, you’re trying to learn a skill. If you need alcohol to talk to a girl, you’re not really learning, you’re avoiding learning.

* Success with women will exacerbate other problems in your life.

I met a lot of guys on my journey who were into game, but really needed to focus on general self-improvement first. Having a girlfriend is difficult and if the rest of your life is a mess, your other problems will only grow. This doesn’t mean you need to be earning six figures before you ever talk to a girl, but be able to hold a steady job. Get a handle on your other responsibilities before you get into game.

* Have standards and stick to them.

The hottest girl you can get is the hottest girl you can walk away from. I didn’t make up that line, but I can’t remember who did. Learn what qualities you like and value in a woman and don’t waste your time with women who don’t meet your expectations.

* Embrace an abundance mentality.

Things aren’t going to work out with every woman you hope it works out with. Such is life. But you’re a total pimp and you can meet an even better woman tomorrow. If you can approach dating and pickup with that mindset, you will be all the better for it and save yourself a lot of headaches.

* Leave them better than you found them.

In any interaction you have, be it romantic or platonic, remember to be a value-giver and not a value-taker. I didn’t overcome my approach anxiety until I could look at the woman I wanted to approach and say to myself, and mean it, “*I don’t know how this interaction will end, but I can guarantee her night will be better for having met me*.” That’s an extremely empowering attitude. If you truly believe that you can bring joy to another person’s life, there’s no reason *not* to talk to them. But you won’t get this feeling until your intentions are congruent with the above mantra. When your priority is to bring joy into the lives of others, there’s no room for lies, games, vengeance or deceit.

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How to seduce a girl of the conservative culture?

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So, I’m originally from a mediterranean country. People over there are not necessarily religious but they have pretty conservative culture. So the thing is there is a girl that I know from college. We met when I was undergrad. So we went to the same school for 4 years. We didn’t really talk at that time. But we had normal friendly relations. So now like 3 years have passed since we graduated: I am here in America and she’s there in my country. She occasionally comes to America though because of the work. Now the problem is as I said I never really talked to her during college years but now I pretty much feel attracted to her and want to talk to her but I don’t know how to initiate the conversation. The thing is I don’t want to look too upfront, I mean I wouldn’t care if it were some random girl, but with this girl, I’m just afraid that anything that I try would make it too clear to her that I’m hitting on her and rumors will spread fast lol
So, briefly speaking, how do I start talking to her but at the same time staying “clean”? lol By “clean” I mean like if I feel that she’s not interested or I don’t like her personality, I can easily get out of all this without looking like I got rejected or that I’m dumping her

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How do i pick up girls at a party?

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Pmo to yall tips

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How To Build A Solid Connection With A Girl [SOLVED]

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How To Build A Solid Connection With A Girl [SOLVED]

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