6 Pillars of Attraction, By KinoChris

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Gather around Members of r/Seduction theory time.

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So for my very first post here I will speak on attraction, or rather what is considered “attractive”

This won’t really cover building attraction or escalation. Those will be for later posts.

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So without further ado:

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The 6 Pillars of attraction are:

1. Grooming & Hygiene
2. Fashion
3. Physique
4. Lifestyle
5. Personality
6. Non-Verbal Communication

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Now you may be thinking, Hey KinoChris! this is pretty common sense. But something, blah, blah. common sense isn’t so common. Like it’s 2019 and we have Trump is president so I’d argue we live and operate pretty far from common sense right now.

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So to break this down further, I would like to state. **LOOKS DONT MATTER!** or rather, they matter less than you would think. I am just average looking, and have dated, hooked up, and friended. Plenty of gorgeous women that people believed to be “Out of my league”

Looks mostly only add as a bonus, rarely a take away (Speaking of genetic features. I.E, how you were born/ look naturally)

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Pillar 1: Grooming & Hygiene

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This is a very, very important one in my opinion, which is why I place it as number one. Although I am listing them as one pillar they are two separate things, here are both defined by Webster;

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So as you can see there is a *slight* difference in the two. However the main things here are

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1. Make sure your hair (facial and other) are maintained, trimmed, and don’t stink
2. Make sure you don’t smell like body odor.
3. Dental hygiene.
4. Keep nails trimmed, and clean
5. Clothes also kinda fall in this realm as far as; Stain-free, good smelling, pressed/ ironed clothes.

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Grooming can be the difference between :

[Hugh Jackman looking like the guy asking for spare change.](https://i.redd.it/g2uel58r0cm21.jpg)

And this:

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[Same guy….](https://i.redd.it/2z2pm1hv0cm21.jpg)

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Example B:

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[The difference between squirrel master, and Master of the House.](https://i.redd.it/8z90a3rx0cm21.jpg)

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Pillar 2: Fashion

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While the other’s on this list can’t truly be ranked in any particular order Fashion can not be overlooked!

There is the saying you only get one first impression. Often times what you are wearing will affect what someone thinks of you and how they treat you.

For example I work in a business casual workplace, so often times I dress nice during the day, so people treat me with respect. However in my off time I bike uber eats and won’t care what i look like for the tradeoff of being warm. Often times I get treated worse when doing uber eats, purely based on others perception of who I am. If they saw me during normal 9-5 hours, it’d be a different interaction.

When I say fashion, I don’t mean owning the latest Balenciaga, or Gucci products, or even looking like Fashion week in Milan. By fashion I mean. The Fashion in how you wear your clothes, and understanding simple fashion do’s and don’t

like this:

[Clothes that are too big looks unattractive. Find something that plays to your body type](https://i.redd.it/kzh89ljilbm21.jpg)

Simple things to keep in mind with fashion

1. Keep it simple. Use accessories for your extravagant statements.
2. Read a few fashion articles, and pay attention to other people’s styles for ideas
3. Dress to your body type. Not too big, or too small.
4. Dress for any occasion (I often dress to be able to get into any venue while still being comfortable)

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Here is a link to some simple style tips to up your fashion:[https://restartyourstyle.com/173/20-must-follow-rules-for-guys-who-want-to-start-dressing-better/](https://restartyourstyle.com/173/20-must-follow-rules-for-guys-who-want-to-start-dressing-better/)

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Pillar 3: Physique

This one is more based from primal roots. Back in the hunter/gather days, you can tell a good deal about a person by there Physique. Are they a leader? will they produce good offspring? are they healthy? Etc?

Interestingly enough, some of this still applies to today’s world. Often times, you will find that in well to do areas. People with higher income/status in life work out. I once heard a joke cant remember the author of it but it goes like :

“The more people you see running for no reason, the higher the property value”

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Because Physique directly ties to mental health, physical health, a person with a good physique is often considered more attractive or to have better health.

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My advice hit the gym. You don’t have to look like the Rock, or a pro body builder. Just be somewhat fit. It also shows you are actively working on yourself. Which is an attractive quality in itself.

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Pillar 4: Lifestyle

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This is a big one, kinda… Now it doesn’t matter if you are a millionaire or not (to some women) but rather how you live your life. This one is kinda a “Meta game” thing however this can speak volumes to people and can provide the backbone to any social proof you do, or do not have. It can say a lot about who you are and what you stand for, without you saying a word.

Things that help comprise Lifestyle are:

* Your friends/ Social Circle
* Your work/income
* Hobbies & Skills
* Adventures & Travel
* Do you have women in your life?

Having some of these things can say a lot about a person. Who is more “Attractive” The boring millionaire who inherited their money and now works for their fathers business? or the person who speaks 3 languages, have been to 5 countries, and works on their passions?

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Granted, attraction is subjective, and some people are attracted to stability so the quiet millionaire would be a catch to some. However remember, energy is contagious. If you enjoy yourself, people around you usually are more likely to enjoy themselves.

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Pillar 5: Personality

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This pillar has too much to truly discuss in one article, however I will talk about a few positive/Attractive personality traits

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* Having a good sense of humor.
* Having Confidence
* Being social/charismatic
* Possessing Empathy
* Having a good “vibe”
* Not being judgmental

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To be honest you can fill in a bunch of things to that list depending on your idea of a great personality, however I find the goal is to come across as cool and confident, don’t be an asshole or a door mat, and most people will accept and respect you, as long as you do the same for them. Just don’t be needy or creepy.

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Pillar 6: Non Verbal Communication skills

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At first this was going to just be “The 5 Pillars of attraction”. However as I was writing I realized I was missing something!

The proper use and understanding of non verbal communication.

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Ever heard the phrase “Take a hint”?

Yeah, people who can’t understand non verbal communication are often seen as creepy.

90% of communication is non verbal. The most common NVC’s are:

* Touching (Kino)
* Gestures
* Personal space
* Posture
* Facial expressions.
* Eye contact.

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Sometimes a wink can say more than an entire conversation.

You can often tell who likes who likes someone by where their feet are pointing, or how close they stand

Best friend tend to communicate entire thoughts by slight micro expressions and eye contact

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Being able to read when someone may be into you, or show you are attracted in a positive, and non creepy way will take you further.

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I would suggest subscribing to the youtube channel Charisma on command for more little tid bits on this topic.[https://www.youtube.com/user/charismaoncommand](https://www.youtube.com/user/charismaoncommand)

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So in closing Remember

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1. Grooming & Hygiene
2. Fashion
3. Physique
4. Lifestyle
5. Personality
6. Non-Verbal Communication

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That’s all for now.

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Hope this will be of help to someone

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Best Regards

KinoChris

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Date told me my kiss was “forced/awkward”

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So I went on a date last night from a girl I met in bumble and it went pretty well and right before she went on her lyft, i made a move to kiss her and she repricocated, but then she texted me later saying it felt forced/awkward. I’ve been thinking about this wondering what I did wrong

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2-sets When Gaming Solo. Is this Mission Impossible?

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I’ve said in the past that gaming solo is better than doing so with a wingman.

The only disadvantage is there is no-one to distract the friend during a two-set.

Here are three examples of failed two-set pulls from last night.

Anything I could have done better? Was a number-close the only option? Let me know in the comments….

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***Glamorous and super-hero***

The first club is closing

I open a set with some line about one looking glamorous yet sporty and the other looking like a superhero ready to save the world from arrogant white men.

Glamorous says we already met and she already follows me on Instagram.

I tell her “cool, so you already know Im awesome” and pull her in for a hug

Glamourous is loving all the obnoxious, cocky-funny lines, but Superhero is visibily disgusted.

I try a few lines and compliments to win her over, but it seems her mind is already made up.

So, instead I make jokes about the fact her friend hates me.

*Joe’s not for everyone*

*There’s ony a 50% chance of women absolutely loving me. I guess your coin landed on tails*

Glamorous is loving this. Superhero not so much.

Anyway, the set ended with Superhero literally Glamorous’ finger and wagging as it if to say ‘No’. That’s pretty funny for a girl.

I tell them they’re free to leave.

Glamorous doesn’t want to leave. Superhero literally has to drag her away.

You’d imagine Glamorous is a solid shout to come out on a date.

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***Skinny and Fat***

I’m at the first club, which closes at 12.

Some woman who I already met and IG-closed through daygame.

She opens me asking if I remember her. I tell her “Yes”, but she doesn’t believe me. She tells the elaborate story of how I hit on her, while she was working at a food market. Yep.

This looks pretty on….

She’s acting a bit shy though because she’s “not drunk”.

I invite her and the fat friend to dance.

Fat friend is proper going for it, but skinny girl is kind of standing there and watching.

Knowing it’s important to win over the fat friend over (and make skinny girl chase), I focus mainly on her.

We find a pillar and do a make-shift pole-dancing competition. I stuff 1 Baht notes down her bra.

Everyone thinks it’s funny.

They invite me to the second club.

I don’t go with them, because they’re driving a moped and I’m walking.

At the second club, I spot them and give the fat one my free drinks voucher.

Soon after, they start whispering to each other and the fat one starts grabbing my chest and grinding on me super-sexually.

Fuck, was I too nice to the fat one!? Did they just agree that she could have me?

I ejected the set to use the bathroom.

When I returned, skinny girl was crying over some girl drama and they went home…

I can follow up via IG, but I think skinny girl has some personality issues, (which is why I stopped texting her in the first place).

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***Aussie 1 and Aussie 2***

I spot thess two Aussies who say the second club sucks.

I agree and we bounce to go a better one. The club right next to my apartment 😉

Loads of banter, with both parties negging the other, (as you can expect from Aussies).

By the time we got to the bar, it was closed.

My only strategy to seperate them was to invite them BOTH to my apartment, and hope that one declined the offer (or one leaves before the other).

They both declined the offer because they had early mornings to attend to.

Got them both on IG, so I can text the hottest one I suppose…

***This was originally posted in the Telegram group I co-launched for men who want to become brilliant with women. Some 400+ guys sharing their success stories and getting feedback on their sticking points. A real brotherhood. if you’d like to join the group, drop me a PM with your Telegram handle.***

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Success! Finally lost my V-Card

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After vowing to change the ways I (19M) approach women and deciding to get into great shape and build my confidence I have finally lost my virginity on the 3rd date with a girl I recently started seeing. The difference in my confidence that I act with around her surprises even me as I know I was a pretty weak Beta only months ago.

It’s nice to mark one in the win column, and I’ll take the claw marks on my back as a proud battle scar 😉
Don’t give up guys! Good hunting.

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