Is it me, or is r/askreddit an excellent source for conversation topics?

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I’ve been thinking a lot for a couple of days about the dynamics of *interesting* and unconventional conversation topics and this sub seems to be a treasure chest full of it.

In addition to this, I’m also looking for a style of conversation that appears to be random and fictional – something that just keeps giving. I was talking to a gent in a previous thread where he mentioned he used to come up with fictional tales of how he was in the Bolivian Intelligence Agency and detailed his adventures in a way to both have something to talk about and make the girl laugh.

I’d also like to know an unconventional method to open a with a girl without starting with her name. I came up with up a ‘look at that couple there, how long do you think till she slaps him” and something on those lines.

Questions:

1. How do you approach a potential girl when they’re in groups?

2. When there’s a lull in the convo, I simply stare at her with a half smile. This generally goads her to come up with something. I’d like to have a proper backup- what’s yours?

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Would getting a job improve my self confidence?

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Would getting a job make me more confident and help me with interactions?

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What’s it going to take to sack up and cold approach?

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A little context to my question (feel free to skip to the end if not interested in my background).

I do not want to sound boastful but I’ve never had issues attracting and sleeping with women. I was in a very social fraternity in college which allowed me to intuitively understand the mindset of abundance and develop my game.

Since graduating and starting to work full time, I do not enjoy drinking and going out near as much, which was an important source of lead traffic.

I did dating apps for a while and got matches/dates/hook ups but it felt so bland and boring.

I was turned onto cold approach by first watching thatwasepic on YT and thought the idea looked exhilarating.

So long story short I checked out that Todd guy, RSD, and my favorite is Tom torero because he is so practical.

The last step is just doing it. I’ve tried recruiting friends to game with, complimenting girls as I walk by to build momentum, etc. I just haven’t taken the next step to start conversations consistently.

Does anyone have any different tricks or tips to just sack up so I can talk to the copious amounts of pretty girls I see on a regular basis?

I know that rejection is nothing serious (I’m in sales so I face rejection every day).

To be specific, does anyone have a quick psychological exercise to combat the made up stories we tell ourselves before deciding not to approach?

Many thanks

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Any actually legit infields?

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Seems pretty much every infield is accused of being fake, and a lot of these accusations come with proof. It makes sense too, they want to make money. If I were to try to make money I wouldnt mind cheating to make a video requiring 30 hours of work take 3 hours instead.

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I don’t want mystery method type of premade lines repeated over and over again. (Also the show was with actors, but i’ve seen it recommended here)

I dont want night club type of stuff.

Some people recommend RSD, but they don’t really seem to be legit. And even if they were- its just spammy stuff. Saying (really) weird things to girls until someone say yes.

Some recommend good looking loser – It’s also accused of being fake. And the guy genuinely seems like a loser

Some people recommend todd- He has a ugly girlfriend(Like most PUA seem to end up with). And he is waay too technical. I already overanalyse everything, it doesn’t help if I have 10 weird concepts i have to think about as well

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Im just looking for some regular normal guy footage. My main purpose is programming my brain to see flirting as normal behaviour. Studies show asocial shy children being shown footage of children being social and playing with each other makes them more social and likely to start conversation with children too. I believe this is how humans react to pretty much anything. But it don’t help if if we don’t believe what we see.

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Slid in her DM’s and got somewhere, but ended up getting curved.

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19y/o College student here. Ive always been told im really good looking throughout my life and I honestly think I am. Ive only gotten a couple girls in life and they pretty much approached me first (social anxiety lol). I decided to DM a girl and she said she would hang sometime.
Now heres where im confused
She said we should meet up next thursday. I agreed. Thursday rolls around so i snap her again and she said she’ll let me know when they go out, but then never ended up telling me.
Why would she lead me on to thinking we could hang for a week and then curve me? Like she couldve just not responded or deleted me
Should I snap her again to show Im still confident I have a chance, or would that just look needy?

I know I should’ve been the one inviting her to do something but since ive never met her, she probably wanted to meet at a bar with her friends there.

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How to be funny yet not make a fool out of yourself?

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I’m considered the class clown but I often act stupid in order to make the conversation funny or just make a fool of myself for fun. I’m very rarely serious

Right now I don’t feel like I can keep a small talk conversation interesting/funny without making myself look dumb, or I often run out of things to say. It came down to the point where I hate small talk conversations because they’re really boring for me.

I just watched all of Californication and Hank Moody’s humour is fucking perfect, he always finds such funny shit to say and he’s always interesting.

How can I improve my smalltalk and humour in general? Any books advice tips?

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ALWAYS BE DECISIVE – lessons from past fuck-ups

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There is a quote in Models by Mark Manson, “always err on the side of assertiveness”.

I am a fairly indecisive person overall, not being able to choose what I want from a menu, what to wear that day, what movie to watch, unfortunately this is a highly unattractive trait to women. If a girl asks what do you want to do, and your reply is “ummm idk up to you” “whatever u wanna do”, this comes across as indecisive and not confident, it does not elicit attraction.

That is why you always, in a position of either being indecisive or doing nothing, or being decisive and taking action, you ALWAYS do the latter.

From past experiences I can think of two examples where I was indecisive and where I was assertive.

The first, I went out with a girl to the movies, we got some sushi, watched the movie and had a pretty good time, didn’t really have any expectations at the time and really would be happy with just having a nice date. She ended up asking me to come over, to show off the new house she moved into. We went back to her place and just made a bit of conversation, until I said we should watch a horror movie or something. This is when full blown fucking idiocy kicks in, buckle up. We start watching this movie in her bed, and about 5 minutes in she says she wants to get changed, and puts on these tight booty shorts and a t shirt, and lays down next to me. We continue watching the movie and after about 15 minutes I kind of figure maybe I should make a move, so I lean in for the kiss and she kisses me back, make out for about 5 minutes until we continue watching the movie. For one reason or another my big dumb man brain figured, if she wants to have sex it will be pretty clear as in the past my ex-girlfriends have whispered something dirty or put their hand on my thigh, but she ended up just laying and watching the movie. So I didn’t try to push any further for sex, and we ended up just kissing and going to sleep. Another fucking episode of brain damage occurred when she said “I like to fall asleep to music” and put on a spotify playlist of “songs to have sex to”.

What do I do: “haha no problem its relaxing goodnight”.

I still audibly cringe about this today.

Shockingly, as much as we got on really well at the time and had great chemistry, a couple days later she stopped replying to my texts, and I asked her if she wanted to hang out again or just be friends and she said the latter.

Women do not like men who don’t take action, who are indecisive and come across as pussies.

Disclaimer this does not mean you have to try and fuck every single girl or that every single girl is expecting to have sex, but what it shows is that in a situation where you either don’t take action or do take action, if you don’t make the move, 99% of the time the evening will amount to nothing, but if you make the move either she will be down, or she’ll tell you straight up she doesn’t want to, but you have to make the effort at the beginning so that you open up the possibility of something happening.

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The second situation was a few days ago, and another girl ended up coming over to my house to watch a movie at about 11:45 at night. Having learned from the last experience and having been out with a few more girls and having some idea of experience, I said to myself, “if in doubt, just fucking go for it”. This girl came over and we started watching Superbad (classic btw) and eating some pizza I ordered. However she wasn’t displaying any of the signs that you typically read about or that I had previously seen from previous girlfriends that she was keen, wasn’t making much eye contact, really just focused on the movie, sitting with her legs crossed away from me. If I was still a big dumb pussy I would assume, well she doesn’t seem very keen, she probably isn’t down to get physical. But I remember what I said said, and thought, well she came over to my place in the middle of the night to watch a movie, she must be at least somewhat interested, so I thought fuck it. I said “hey” and she looked at me, and I put my hand on her neck and kissed her. Her reply “I’ve been waiting for you to do that all night”. This is an important fucking lesson, girls may not always give off super blatant signs that they are interested but it doesn’t mean they aren’t still keen. We end up making out and having learned from last time, I figured I’ll just keep going for it unless she tells me not to. I just went for it, I took off her top, doesn’t stop me, took off my top and her pants, doesn’t stop me and you can figure out how it went from there.

This example so easily could have just amounted to jack shit, with us just sitting and watching a movie and her going home, but because I at least tried, it ended up that she was keen.

So I hope these few examples are a bit insightful, and with this by no means is this a blanket statement that every single girl wants to kiss or wants to have sex, but what it showed me is that:

If you don’t make a move, 99% of the time nothing will happen.

If you make a move, usually if it seemed like a good idea at the time (you’re in bed together, she’s seeming interested etc) it usually ends up progressing and going well.

So I’m keeping this philosophy from now on as so far it has a 100% success rate.

When in doubt, just fucking go for it.

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