I was curious if anybody has had the same experience as me and also just to rant and bitch a bit to get it off my chest.
So very recently I’ve been hanging out with this girl I work with. We both go to Community College. Im 20, shes 18. Through mutual coworkers we both heard we thought each other was cute. So we started talking more, we connected quickly, and I asked her out. By the first date, we were making out and gettin touchy in my car after the movie. We continued talking and going out for about two weeks. But almost as quickly as things escalated, it began to deescalate. For the most part, we were having fun and enjoying each other during work, but more and more I found it challenging to spend time with me outside of work. I would offer to take her out or even just to hang out and study together, but she kept saying how busy she was. One week we both had the same exact days off. She managed to be busy for both of them. Eventually I had enough. After a minor argument and me asking to speak in person about what was on our minds (rather than hide behind phones) , she hit me with “sorry I was busy earlier and I was nervous that you were mad at me”. Then I said i wasn’t mad and that I still wanted to talk that day. Then I got hit with another “sorry I was busy”. I had enough at that point. After that, I didn’t respond and deleted her number so I wouldn’t be tempted to text her.
Now, when I see her in person, she first acts unbelievably awkward. I try to say some things to her just so I don’t look pissy. I was able to get a good normal conversation goin, similar to ones we had when I considered us together. I just cannot read what’s goin on with girl whatsoever. It’s almost like she doesn’t realize how fuckin rude she’s been. What’s weird is she even told me to buy tickets to a festival that her and another coworker were going to and wanted me to come along with them.
It almost seems like she’s trying to ghost me in real life. I almost just want to shake her around and tell her “IF YOU’RE DONE WITH ME THEN FUCKING TELL ME”. It’s just so frustrating. I figured my best plan of attack was just to act like I’m not affected at all by her decision to drop me and basically keep my mouth shut and move on.
I’m just curious if anybody else has had something like this happen them and has any advice to either re-spark attraction, get her to open up to me about what happened, or offer any different perspective. I figured she’s just immature and doesn’t know what she wants, especially since I am transferring to a university next semester.