What you do when a club is dead

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Should I just get blown out by every girl here or what cuz right now I can see why everyone is always drunk

And damn dude I see why routines are important I ran out shit to say after like 5 mins this shit is so different from day game

Edit I feel like I have to also mentions this is my first time going to a club and I’m not 21

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Igor ledochowski

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Could any of you guys share your experiences on studying his programs and got success with girls

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My Golden Rule of pickup and how it helped me overcome approach anxiety.

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Yesterday I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/b224z9/almost_4_years_ago_i_hit_rock_bottom_with_my_love/) about my experience in game. Most of the feedback you gave me was about the last point, so I wanted to create a new post to expand on it further.

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My Golden Rule for pickup is simple: *Leave them better than you found them.* I wish I could take credit for it, but it’s something I heard or read somewhere else. Unfortunately, I can’t remember where. It’s a mantra I carried throughout my time in the game and it always served me well. So well, in fact, that I have expanded it to include not just the women I approach, but every social interaction I have, be it with a woman or a man.

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But what does it mean to leave them better than you found them and how can you possibly do this with every single person you interact with? Ultimately, it comes down to being a value-giver or a value-taker. I like how John Maxwell puts it when he said you can either be a lifter or a stander. I see every interaction I have with someone as an opportunity to make their life, or even just their day, a little bit better. I can make them laugh, teach them something new, be an ear for them to vent to, or simply give them an enjoyable conversation. There are countless ways you can provide value. If I fail at that, then it’s likely that I’m actually taking value away. If I’m in a bad mood and let that affect my behavior, ask for favors without reciprocating, or use my words to hurt, just to give a few examples, then I’m actively taking value. When I act in such as way, one would be better off not interacting with me at all.

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So, how is all of this talk about value-giving vs value-taking going to help you get over approach anxiety?

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When I first started with game, I would approach a woman and subconsciously be thinking, *Hehehe, I going to go talk to this girl, use the latest techniques I read on seddit, she will think this is actually who I am and she will give me her phone number.* **In other words, I approached women with the intent of taking value from them** (i.e. her attention, her phone number, her time and, if I was lucky, her body). I consider myself a good person, so deep down this didn’t sit well with me, even if at the time I couldn’t explain exactly why. This feeling manifested itself in the form of approach anxiety. I felt bad that I was taking value without providing value in return, so I would get nervous.

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Over time, I noticed changes in myself that changed my interactions with women. I was on a major self-improvement kick. I was trying new things, pursuing hobbies, traveling, making new friends, killing it at work and getting in better physical shape. As a result, my mindset changed when I would make an approach. I felt excited rather than nervous. Eventually, there came one particular approach where before I took my first step, I thought to myself, *this girl doesn’t know it yet, but I’m about to make her night.* That was my light bulb moment .

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Can you see the difference between the two mindsets I had? **As a beginner, I was actively trying to take value and hoping no one would notice. In my new mindset, I was excited to give value.** This is what took my game to the next level. Before I made an approach, I would think, *I don’t know how this interaction will end, but I can guarantee her night will be better for having met me.* Once I had that mindset, approaching was easy.

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How do you access that mindset though? I came about it organically and accidentally by actively trying to improve myself as a person. While I highly recommend trying to grow as a person, you can achieve this mindset by living the mantra stated above: *Leave them better than you found them*. If you walk into every approach with this as your one and only goal, amazing things will happen.

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How To Be Happy Without a Girl?

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I am proud and happy with where my career is headed, working a position that fulfills and challenges me with ample opportunity to grow and achieve. My self-esteem is miles better than it used to be. My skills at talking to women and conveying my personality is quite good.

The one thing I can’t shake is wanting a top tier girlfriend and the feeling that I’m “missing” a part of me when I don’t have one. It sucks the energy out of my life. I find myself fantasizing about doing cool activities and bantering with my perfect girl (no girl I’ve been with in the past has met this standard) but I quickly get sad after. The desire to have this is sort of a black hole that sucks up all the happiness in the other areas of my life. How can I fix this mentality and become independent from it?

Right now, I’m trying to have cool activities and create the same beauty of banter with the people in my life right now to learn how to appreciate and be happy with what I have already, to get less dependent on the daydreams I have.

I’m also starting to get mighty discouraged about working on my self-esteem because when I fix one major part of it, another hole in my self-esteem originating from my past pokes up and it feels never-ending. Is there a general way to boost your self-esteem that will patch up multiple holes at once?

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Retired “player” wants to know how the game has changed

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I was mostly active from the heyday of Usenet ASF till around 2012 when I made a conscious decision to hang the gloves. I had my ups & downs, but looking back, I also had a lot of fun.

Recently, the game’s siren call has been trying to seduce me. I’m not really in a situation where it would be wise to put on the gloves again but I’d still like to hear how the game has changed, if at all.

For example, have things like Tinder made it easier? Have any of these feminist SocJus flare ups like #metoo, #yesallwomen, etc affected how players need to go about things now?

Educate this curious old man.

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The psychology of seduction | Raj Persaud | TEDxUniversityofBristol

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The psychology of seduction | Raj Persaud | TEDxUniversityofBristol


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