My first field report

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I am newbie, who has read a lot but never done anything, I always had terrible social anxiety and decided and things really got worse when one of my professor insulted me by calling autistic(no offense to autistic people) and dumb.So I went out and baught Neil Strauss’s rules of the game. It gives you challenges everday for next 30 days,Today was the first challenge,basically I had to make small talk to five strangers today, i was able to talk only to four so here it goes.
1) The first person i talked to today was a guy.We were at the local government office to get our documents.Unfortunately it was closed so i asked him about where he was from, turned out we were from the same place.
2)The second person was a girl, i overheard that she was from the same med school which my brother attends, asked her if she knows him, she said no
3)Next were two girls.we have elections coming in next few days, so i told them that i made a bet with my friend about who gonna win the next election, whether it was party A or B and i want to know the popular opinion of people.They said B and then i replied by saying well that’s bad news for me because i am rooting for A, said thank you and then moved on.

What are your opinions on my progress so far?

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How To Get A Girls Number (VIRAL VIDEO 2019)

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How to seduce a girl of the conservative culture?

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So, I’m originally from a mediterranean country. People over there are not necessarily religious but they have pretty conservative culture. So the thing is there is a girl that I know from college. We met when I was undergrad. So we went to the same school for 4 years. We didn’t really talk at that time. But we had normal friendly relations. So now like 3 years have passed since we graduated: I am here in America and she’s there in my country. She occasionally comes to America though because of the work. Now the problem is as I said I never really talked to her during college years but now I pretty much feel attracted to her and want to talk to her but I don’t know how to initiate the conversation. The thing is I don’t want to look too upfront, I mean I wouldn’t care if it were some random girl, but with this girl, I’m just afraid that anything that I try would make it too clear to her that I’m hitting on her and rumors will spread fast lol
So, briefly speaking, how do I start talking to her but at the same time staying “clean”? lol By “clean” I mean like if I feel that she’s not interested or I don’t like her personality, I can easily get out of all this without looking like I got rejected or that I’m dumping her

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Seducing your S/O?

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Hey guys. I’m looking for advice/strategies on how to seduce someone you’ve been with for a while.
I’m 26 and my girlfriend is 25. We’ve been together for 3 years and we’re doing fine. The sex is good, but predictable and sorta vanilla. I’d like to spice things up, make her want me the way she did when we first started hooking up. Ya know, get her excited about being naked together instead of just fucking to get each other off.

It’s like we’re past the point of trying to impress each other in the bedroom, which I know happens in relationships. I don’t want sex to be a routine thing. What can I do as her BF to make things more exciting?

Any and all suggestions are welcome and appreciated

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How do I make things official?

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Hey guys i am in first year university . I met with this girl and we are kind of friends that line each other. WHAT i mean is that this girl will often compliment me and talk about marriage with me. ONE day i was hanging out with my friend and my friend told her she is not single i was there too and she is like she is and then my friend said u have him (meaning me) then she’s like he is not making this official yet i already gave him hints. SO how do i make things official how do i ask her out?

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Field report: going out alone for the first time

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I’m really anxious about clubs and nightgame (which I never did of course), so I thought I’d try going out and seeing what happens, to kick myself out of the comfort zone a bit.

**Before going out:**

1. Got into a social mood by speaking with people at work, going to a lunch with a girl I approached earlier (turned out she had a bf though). Went to the gym, chatted with one guy about music, met a buddy from work.
2. Approached one girl. She was resting in between sets.
1. “Hey, sorry to interrupt you. You remind me of my friend, who is really pretty, I wanted to say hi.”
2. “Haha, but seems like I’m not her”
3. “I thought you were for a second. Maybe you have a sister”
4. “No, only a brother”
5. “Maybe you have one, you just don’t know”
6. Off to a discussion about where she’s from, where we study/work etc. She was talkative but didn’t seem willing to exchange contacts when I asked.
3. I randomly complemented another girl in the gym, she was very surprised.

**Going out:**

1. Went to a nearby club at around 9:30 PM (it opens at 7) and there were about 7 people, a bartender was giving a talk on how to prepare drinks. Turned out this place is usually empty until 11, so I helped a bit, chatted with the staff, got a free drink. Approached a couple of girls, but they were all working there and didn’t have the time to talk.
2. Left this place to check out a club nearby. Also almost empty, asked the bartender if they have WiFi, he said “no” and stared at me like I’m an idiot. The place is kinda funny and stupid, so I left.
3. Went to check out another club. It was empty. Chatted with a girl from the staff, she said it’s usually empty unless they have an event.
4. Went to other two places, one was closed, another one seemed lame.
5. Came back to the first place, it was still empty (10:30).
6. Went to my favorite bar nearby with craft beer, where I know the staff. Nobody to approach, I just chilled out for half an hour.
7. Checked facebook, turned out there’s a jazz jam session in a club nearby. Went there, the place is small, but there are lots of people, especially girls. The problem is, there’s almost no place to sit down. Chatted with the musicians during the break, but they were busy and didn’t want to talk a lot. During the next break there was a girl near me, she came with friends, but they were away.
1. “Hey! I don’t have my buddies with me tonight, may I join you?”
2. “Sure!”
3. “What’s your name?”
4. “<name>” (she looked insanely surprised, lol)
5. “Was that an unexpected question?”
6. don’t remember the response
7. Chatted a bit about jazz and music schools.
8. The band started playing and another group of girls sat near me. The first one seemed a bit disinterested, so I started talking with this group during the next break:
1. “Hello by the way”
2. “Hi!”
3. Off to a discussion about how we ended up in this place
9. Similarly, another two girls from the same group sat down near me on the other side. Next break:
1. “Hey, you’re also from the music academy?”
2. Girl 1: “Yes! We’re all from the same group”
3. “Cool, I live near the academy, but I don’t study there”
4. Girl 1: “Haha”
5. “Yea, I just sit at home playing guitar near my PC”
6. Girl 1: “Wow, cool”
7. “What are your names?”
8. Girl 1: “<name1>”
9. “Wow, that’s a really strange name! Haven’t heard it before!”
10. Girl 1: “Everyone says that!”
11. Girl 2: “<name2 from the next girl>, is it strange as well?”
12. (while holding her hand) “not sure, I think I might have heard it somewhere. Just so you know, my actual name is a bit different: <my_name>, so you also met a strange person today.”
10. The band starts playing again. Next break, turned to the first girl:
1. “You have really weird pants”
2. “Those aren’t pants”
3. “I’m not that knowledgeable in this field, those look like pants to me”
4. “Ok”
11. They left to smoke. I was also about to leave the club. Said goodbye to the first girl (the one who was astounded when I asked her name), she was sitting at the bar talking to her friend. When leaving the club, I said goodbye to the smoking girls, they looked at me but didn’t respond.

**Summary.**

Overall, it was nice to get a bit out of my comfort zone, but it seems a bit pointless. Regular clubs seem boring to me, I’m not a huge fan of that atmosphere, but maybe I’ll give them another chance when they are not empty. It’s much more fun when there’s an actual event (especially quality live music), but nobody there was interested in me, since everyone came with their friends. No idea how I could escalate those discussions anywhere.

Thoughts and suggestions much appreciated 🙂

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From Zero to Hero – Field Rapport 6 – State is important

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[Field Report] #-Close: State is important

– SHAMELESS BREAKDOWN –

*01/02/2019*

*Night Game*

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*BRIEF: I aimed to work on my tonality and body language

*DEBRIEF: Yes

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*CONTEXT*

We went out to the strip and it was **packed**. The queues looked like there was a R15,000 price knock off on a QLED TV. The queue to get into one venue stretched all the way to another. It was madness. We gamed but soon realized that there is too much movement, which interrupted our sets. We went to Aandklas, which yielded better results. I learned a lot about not only game but framing and mentality around game. It was as if I was in a dark room and a bird crashed through the fucking window to let in some light. Due to this purposes I am going to add another section to the field rapport called “mentality”. I only really got into state with my last two sets. Which is bad as we gamed for two hours.

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*MENTALITY:*

If you remember my field rapport titled “Rough Night”, you would recall that I was extremely in my mind. Not being able to tap into my wit and struggled to open again. It happen again. This got me to stop and think about what could be the reason. Why one night I am bombing and opening sets left right and center but the next night I cannot even game a fucking cat. #NotAFurry

Here is what I realized. I have been going out since Tuesday night. Two of which I had wings with me others were solo. I realized the nights my wings were not around me I was more cool and collected. I could open much easier. Which is weird.

In addition, I realized that I get into state way too late. Due to this, I am not utilizing the time I have efficiently. I need to do research on state and how to get into it much earlier.

My wings had anxiety just like we all do. We just stood around talking or dancing for a good 30 – 45 minutes of the night which is a lot of time to waste. We stick together like a mouse caught in a trap. This kills game. I need to rather approach as if I would when going out solo. Doing it as a group every time wastes time and effort.

Lastly, while we were dancing I saw 2 naturals (Guys that natural have game but don’t know about the pickup community) join the dance floor. These guys had genetics on their side. Taller than me, built like line backers (probably are) and a great jaw line. Side note; also make sure you are not batting for the other team. Everybody moved out of their way where I had to push my self through the crowd. They were just standing in the middle of the dance floor, arms crossed and bobbing there head to “Scotty doesn’t know” and that was it. Before too long girls approached them, which I spotted earlier and I realized how strong their frames are. I do not have a proper frame. I need to do research and build my own frame then train it. It was spectacular to see how these guys had such strong frames. Oh by the way, they did not have game so the girls moved on.

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*3 BEST SETS:*

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SET 1

I really only got into state after I finished up with a girl that send a pictured to her boyfriend. I would like to bore you with how I fucking struggled to get into state. As I walked, back in with my wings, I saw this girl standing alone in the middle of the road and I approached her. “Do you usually scout out people?” She returned a smile and said “No, half my friends is to the right the other half on the left”, and I squared up rewarding her. She was in the power position though as she was on a step which made her taller than me and I was standing in the highway. I only realized this now while I am writing this rapport. The conversation went great, mostly platonic. It seems I need to work on spiking. I did some breaking rapport and she was starting to enjoy the conversation. While I was, talking a friend of hers came back into the club and needed entrance money. She said give me a few seconds and disappeared to get to him. I realized that I should have isolated the moment it went well. In this case, the friend would not have distracted her. If she did not want to isolate because she was waiting for him I would have known to look out for him and introduce myself the moment he entered which would allow me to stay in set longer. Instead of going over to introduce myself anyway, I did not want to look like a dog waiting for his master to return so I talked to random guys behind them. This was also a mistake because they left without me. One more thing my wing later approached her, they spend a good 20 – 30 minutes with her before I blew the set up. Sorry gents I had to go to bed. This is a hobby and I have work. There is always tonight. I saw her earlier before my wing and should have re-opened. I need to remind myself that the set is not completely lost and re-opening is a viable option.

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SET 2

While the wing was busy with my set from earlier, I saw the guy that lost his shit to the music on the dance floor with two beautiful girls and another guy. I decided to approach. I decided to start talking to the guy that danced like a monkey on cocaine first. I made friends with him and asked him if this was his friends. He said yes and asked him to introduce me. He did so but I introduced myself to my target last. The girl on the end and guy was having a tug of war with her phone. The guy that introduced me immediately left and now I was left standing there. I sat down and tried asking the guy (should I have talked to my target immediately as the other two were busy with their game? If so, how do I get her to focus on me and not the silliness that was going on next to us?) This is the second time this happen to me where I enter the set and a guy and a girl were joking around playing games and me and my target just met so there is no real connection to get into that state. Eventually I got everyone’s attention asking what is going on and tried to make conversation. The guy was real cool with the situation and we had a great chat. I then tried to include the group and my target was interested I could tell though I saw her friend did not like that I killed the buzz. Every cold read I did she shaked her head, yes or no. A song popped up and the two friends sang a long. It was a 6 minute song… I sang along, danced as much as I could and talk to the guy to get the song over with. I tried talking to them while the song was playing but they did not even respond. Though my target and I had eye contact during the whole song. I eventually decided to leave as I got frustrated that no one except the guy is opening up.

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SET 3

My last set was half past 12 in the morning. She went over and asked me if I would like to play pool. Now, I like pool, I was invited to play a round of pool. At first I agree and we struggled to get coins together. We just had platonic chat what she is doing and where she is. Then I saw my wings and realized the time. I decided it’s not a good idea to continue and excused myself. I told her this and she tried hard to get me to stay. I said no and then I realized but she wants me to stay badly, I should just reschedule the pool game. I gave her a hug and told her I have an idea while hugging, she reciprocated well. Let’s reschedule the game to tomorrow night. She was so keen for the idea. I took out my phone. Handed over my phone. Then suddenly grabbed her back “What is my name?” She remembered “10 points to Gryffindor”. I then told her “This number is special you are not allowed to hit on me and I am not cheap” she played along “Dam here I was thinking you will be paying for me”. The back and forth continued. I should have probably gone for the K-Close because we were holding each other the whole time during the exchange but did not. I have a pool game tonight so I can make up for lost actions.

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*3 POSITIVES: What did I do well tonight?*

– *I found problems with my inner game, which means I can work on them*

– *I setup a time bridge and number closed*

– *I opened a mixed set properly*

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*3 NEGATIVES: What did I NOT do well tonight?*

*(More crass version: Did I fuck tonight? If not, why?)*

– *Did not know how to get the girls in the mixed set to open up*

– *Did not K-Close, I have to start pushing the boundaries with my physicality*

– *Should have isolated my sets much earlier.*

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*3 LESSONS: What are the lessons?*

– *A proper and well-enforced frame goes a long way*

– *That I am taking my time getting in state and this needs to be solved.*

– *You always game alone even when you have wings.*

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*QUESTIONS: What questions do I have?*

– *How could I have gotten the mixed set to open up?*

*- What is a great way to get in state sooner?*

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*1 ACTION ITEM: What am I going to work on tomorrow*

– My last two field rapports proved that I am not spiking enough. I am going to research on emotional spikes and enforce it.

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