Directness

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I think that big problem of mine with women is being fully direct about my intentions. As I thought for a large amount of time is that the right thing to do is to hide your intentions, give clues and flirt but not to go and say “I WANT YOU”, to not make her feel that she won you and you are in her Pocket. At the last time I am starting to understand that showing your intentions from the first place will get you better results, so I want to understand the whole thing and the right approach about showing intentions, when just saying I WANT YOU will be good and in which time it will not fit and make her want distance. (How fast? How Its done in a club ? How its done with a girl you start to know?)

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Lots of good signals of attraction in person and through text, then blows me off as soon as I ask her out

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I met a cool/very pretty Taiwanese girl at a meetup event today, we hit it off quite well. Lots of laughing/touching on her part, and she even came to find me and say goodbye before she left the place. We swapped numbers before then (she asked for my number, but I think she asked for several people’s numbers in the event so it doesn’t mean much). She also made a couple of suggestive comments like “You would be really popular among girls in Taiwan”.

I didn’t suggest meeting her again while we were in person, so I asked her out a few hours later via text. She basically blew me off straight away with a bad excuse, which was surprising given the amount of attraction I was getting off her in person. Here’s the message chain:

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>**Her:** Hey
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>**Me:** Hey Abigail! Was nice to meet you today, and glad you appreciated my accent 😉
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>**Her**: It was my pleasure to meet you too. Yeah I really liked your accent and sense of humour. I’m really looking forward to seeing you next time 👍
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>**Her:** This is the Chinese New Year event I was talking about, if you want more info just see here ___________.
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>**Me:** Looks good! You going?
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>**Her:** Nope I went to it last Tues. You should go though 👍
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>**Me:** Oh then we need to find some other excuse to meet!
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>**Me:** There’s a Taiwanese place called _____ in ______ that I’m planning to check out next week. Want to come?
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>**Her:** 😆what a lovely excuse!
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>**Her**: Sorry JDillaLikesDonuts 😭. I planned to do some decorating for my room the next couple of weeks. No worries just leave it to me. I’ll find the “excuse” to ask you out
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>**Me:** You’re decorating your room every day for 2 weeks? 😂 Okay looking forward to it

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Why would she seem so interested in person and through text, even message me first, then immediately proceed to block my attempt to ask her out? An obvious answer might be that I misread her, but through experience I think I’m generally quite good at picking up whether or not girls have that initial attraction to me.

Wondering if this is an obvious lost cause or whether I should hit her up again in a couple of weeks in the likely situation that she still hasn’t hit me up.

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What are the best books for urgency towards dating/intimacy/building relationships?

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For example I read “The China Study” to give myself a better perspective on my diet. What are the holy grail books for social engagement, seduction, and why it matters to get things started now?

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Messages not being sent

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So I’m sending messages and the app says they are sent but don’t show up in the sent box or the chat log. Happened to me yesterday around the same time. I’m not sending anything provocative, just having a conversation.

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How to be more masculine despite my weight?

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I’ve just had an ephiphany that most girls are bad little girls and they want someone who can provide for them and be submissive to.

For most of my life, I’ve been a boy not a man. I’ve slowly been aging and becoming more or a man and deliberately killing the boy I have been. I’ve been eradicating submissive behavior and I’m now alpha and dominant. I realize that girls enjoy me more when I do so.

One thing I find tough to eradicate is my weight. I’ve always been quite skinny and I actually enjoy it. I’m 6 foot and weigh 140lbs and I feel girls find this as a big buzz kill. The problem is I’m very content with this weight and I don’t want to have to change just to get more girls. I’m okay with finding a girl who is okay with my weight.

My question is simple – how do I become more masculine while not having to add on extra weight? How do I make girls feel like their little and submissive to me when I refuse to put on extra lbs to make myself bigger. I enjoy my agileness of being at my weight now. I can’t explain why but I feel I would be hindering my life if I put on more weight personally. I’m looking for another answer.

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Are there examples or qualities of men who weigh less but are still masculine and still exude a lot of power that make women want to be submissive towards? So far, I’ve tried to highlight other qualities about me like my height or my mental attitude but I’m wondering if dressing a certain way will get me more likes on apps like tinder.

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