I spend a lot of time trying to figure out my headspace due to anxiety and depression. I spend so much time doing it; however, that as soon as I get comfortable with a girl, it becomes all I can talk about, and I’m simply lucky that it doesn’t ruin my relationship with my good friends. Not only that, I spend so much time doing it that I lose time and motivation for the things that excite me. The most recent girl who I lost due to this issue described it as “emotional labor”, and that’s exactly right – I’m dumping my load of problems on the people I care about constantly. I believe in communication and being open, but I’m tired of losing worthwhile relationships because I lose the ability to have fun and be present due to my obsession with my own problems.
Tl;dr, I lose out on interested women because I dump all my problems on them and I want them to solve my loneliness. I just want to be a fun and enjoyable person who can actually foster a relationship where someone feels as though they want to know what’s going on in my head rather than me dumping it on them. Need help and direction.
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First, i was never fully involved in daygame training, the closest i was from there was practicing with women i met in work, in a store, etc. more like a library rat, learning a lot about theory, but almost nothing compared with i could do, it may be an important factor of this phenomena.
Due reasons that in the end are not more than excuses, i left the social dynamic practice, and became near to the boi i was before knowing the community, with an invisible wall of “rust” in me. I percieve that my hability to “translate” women or corporal language, as the mood of people in most of cases is fading more slowly, thing that i can lean on to continue (or begin) my training, and also gives me a hope (the flesh is weak, overall for sloth when you realize how far you are from your objectives).
Does this happen only in this case, or is it more normal, maybe something we all have to deal with?
In any case, Im thankful to recieve a tip to overcome this, as someone in the same situation that could be helped…
success for you all
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