I’m currently home from college for the summer and I want to go out and meet a bunch of people but i’m not 21, so I cant go to the bars, and there isn’t much to do in my town that would result in meeting people regularly? For the people who had this problem what were some of your solutions?
It’s the dumbest shit in the world, but even though i’ve had sex and fooled around with a couple girls so im not FULL elliot rodgers, when ive started cold approach and flirting and shit you start to realize that as a noob, you are at first going to be embarassed to even toe the line into sexual innuendo or convo and shit. know what i mean? its stupid only because it shouldnt be a huge deal yet it feels like one at first.
i now work with a girl who is pretty hot and i’ve made a lot of convo with her now, she sometimes kinda hangs/laughs off my every word or dumb joke which is either an IOI or her just being friendly. when i’ve been alone with her like in storage or whatever she kinda changed her voice a bit in that way girls do when they’re kinda horny, it was very very subtle tho. oh and she told me about her baby daddy and how they were kind of on and off and how she was now pregnant. within 2 days of meeting her. it feels like either dirty laundry or advertising. thoughts?
of course, you dont shit where you eat, so i’m treating it as more of an experiment than anything.
girls are VERY rarely going to make any moves of their own tho right? unless you are absolutely to die for or she is very forward. so if anything, if there is any potential, she is waiting to see whether it is ME who bucks up. correct?
addendum of wisdom, tho: by the time you have enough time to be wondering whether she is really about it or not, chances are she has already concluded u are too much of a wuss to make a move.
post addendum: oh…….. and btw the other day a born-again Christian guy told me i was going to hell for sins of fornication and lust. IT’S AN OMEN!!! THE TRUTH IS OUT THERE!!!
Backstory here: I tuned this girl for about 3 months last year and then we stopped talking for whatever reason. A few nights ago I saw her at a party and we hooked up (little bit drunk). Then I just sent her a text a few days later asking if she wanted to still talk or if that was a one off drunk thing and she said “idk im not really looking for anything right now sorry. im really sorry”.I wouldnt mind starting to talk to this girl again but i obviously dont want to pursue it right away and would rather it be both of us wanting to talk to each other rather than me chasing her obviously. So how would I go about this, because obviously there is at least a little bit of attraction there but im not sure where to go from here, not snap her for a week? (we have eachother on snapchat). Any help would be appreciated.
I’m a single 29M and have a 30F girl who is in a relationship who knows what she is doing it seems at my workplace. I won’t go into the full details but I will summarise below in bullet points why I think she is messing with me:
1. Early stages she used to always stop bye and talk/say hi but now waits for me to initiate. But chases me when I back off
2. Laughs, smiles and loves it when I flirt with her or compliment her, tells me she doesn’t like it when other people compliment her and finds it awkward
3. Asked me for my phone number just to be friends, then after a bit started to delay responses and stop responding. I done it straight back and then she stopped playing that game and went back to normal
4. We arranged to go out for lunch – she came that day dressed up properly and in the outfit I like her in best (she knows I like her in this black suit she wears as I have told her that)
5. She gets jealous when I compliment other women (I can see it visibly in her face and also how she chooses more aggressive words, becomes a little bit insulting towards me)
6. Starts disliking girls I am close too (I ignored her once when I was with another girl she thinks fancies me – now she says she doesn’t like her but will not give a reason why)
7. Gets petty when she’s frustrated with me
8. I think she sets up scenarios to converse with me but make it look coincidental e.g. one day I walked past her friend on a different floor to go to the bathroom. Her very close friend seen me walk past. As I came out of the bathroom her friend was looking up smiling at her as she was walking down the stairs. They tried to get me to stop and talk but I just carried on (I think the friend rang her and told her to come down)
9. Feels comfortable referencing us sexually. Said she doesn’t mind people in the office making rumours about us. Told me she thinks people say me and her have a lot of sex. Said “I love you” quite casually to me once. Definitely is out of character for her to say that
10. Is comfortable being alone with me. We have spent quite a bit of time alone together and it was just social talk and casual conversation
However there are reasons which make me think maybe she is just quite an open girl:
1. Doesn’t initiate conversation as often anymore
2. Is reducing how much she enters my radius (she used to do it more often before)
3. Doesn’t ever cross boundaries like ringing each other or texting outside of work
TL;DR: Mixed messages with this girl, my close colleagues are convinced she wants something from me, I’m thinking she’s just passing time but sometimes it looks like she gets a bit too into it