I know what’s most important is voice intonation (I’d like to read about that if you have a link) and body language and not what you say when starting a conversation but sometimes I feel the need to use an opener script. The problem is most opinion openers and other kinds of openers I’ve read about seem fake, unnatural, and the situations they describe are simply too hard to believe for me. For example: “Excuse me… My friends are waiting for me but… Would you date someone who is still friends with their ex? ‘Cause I’ve got a friend who had a box full of pictures of his ex and him and when his girlfriend found it, she burned it and threatened to cut off his dick while he slept…”. Bro, I imagine myself being a girl and hearing that from a random stranger, I’d immediately know that that guy just made up that story so he could catch my interest and that would be a real turn off for me (Just why the hell would he tell that story to a random stranger without any context whatsoever?). Unless you have some serious storytelling technique, I don’t see that working as a good way to start a conversation. A situational opener, asking for information or just introducing yourself seems to me a lot better than making up such a ridiculous story just to open a conversation. This sort of thing makes me lose my faith in some seduction methods and feel a fool for actually spending money on them. What do you guys think?
These are the 3 big things I’ve picked up on recently. I went through a shit break-up last year and it took a lot of time to get my game back. This subreddit helped me get through tough times so I am paying it forward.
1) Cocky comedy will take you far. Being playfully cocky will instantly separate you from 90% of social interactions she has with other males. Cocky comedy comes from the perspective that **she is the one who is after you.** When meeting a new woman, challenge her from the very beginning. Instead of pursuing her, put it in your head that she is the one pursuing you. Don’t be afraid to bust her balls, but make sure it’s in a teasing flirtatious way. One way I like to use cocky comedy is by using a made up “strike system”. I’ll say something like this: “Oh, you don’t like pineapple on pizza? That’s gonna be a strike. This isn’t going to work out.” I take something small and blow it out of proportion as if it was a relationship deal breaker. The secret is a sly delivery, as you don’t want to come off as arrogant or try to hurt her feelings. Cocky comedy is a way to show that you’re not intimidated by her and that you like to have a good time. It’s also a good shit test to play on women.
2) Stop relying on logical characteristics to get women. This one took me a long time to figure out. I used to think “I’m an above average looking guy, I wear nice clothes, I’m not a fuck-up, so why aren’t women throwing themselves at me?” The thing is, having “logical” qualities is great to possess, and you should absolutely work on becoming the best person you can be. **But the reality is that logic ain’t gonna get you laid.** In order to attract women you must do so on an emotional level. Attraction is fueled by humor, charm, smart-ass comments, unpredictability, wit, i.e. the intangible characteristics. You MUST make a woman feel a special way if you want to attract her. The extra stuff (nice job and car) is just icing on the cake once you’ve already attracted her.
3) Understand what confidence looks like. You always hear people say “just be confident around women,” but what the fuck does confidence even LOOK like? I figured out that **confidence is just a sense of security in future events.** When talking to women, speak with certainty in the future. Replace your “if’s” with “when’s”, and stop staying “I think” and “I guess.” Communicate as though you already know you **will** go on a date with her, and that you **will** end up kissing her. You’ll start to notice how this change in mentality will subsequently change the way you carry yourself. If deep down you’re still insecure (which is okay) then fake it till you make it.
EDIT: Glad to see the reception this got! I’m going to make a post in a few days outlining some cocky comedy techniques. Be on the lookout for it.