Just something I wanted to share with you guys.
I went through a harsh breakup 6 months ago and am just starting to get back into the game.
Two days ago I was on a night out with some friends and naturally we were also looking out for girls we could chat up and maybe even take home with us.
The first rejection went like this: My friend and I were standing next to some girls and he turned to them and said: “May I introduce you to my friend…” and before he even finished the sentence the girl took a look at me, just said “no” and turned around.
The second rejection was when we went to a quieter part of the bar and I saw a girl sitting with her friends, so I just went up to her and introduced myself. Immediately she got extremely defensive and told me basically to fuck off. I was a bit perplexed by her angry tone and stood there dumbfounded for a few seconds, when even her friends came up to me and told me also in an extremely rude tone that she wasn’t interested and I should piss off.
Well, I’m telling this story because this is probably the biggest fear of most beginners in the pick up game: not only was I immediately shut down, both times it was in an embarrassing and a bit humiliating way.
I had two ways to react: either I could get self conscious and stop trying at all for the night, or I could own that shit, laugh about it and continue having an awesome night.
I chose to take the second path: I owned that shit, told my friends about the epic ways I was just shut down twice, had a good laugh about it with them and continued to chat up girls. I ended up talking and dancing with two hot chicks throughout the night and even got the number of one of them.
Moral of the story is, don’t be afraid to talk to a girl just because you are afraid of being rejected. It really just doesn’t matter at all. The ways I was rejected could be considered extremely embarrassing, people all around me saw and heard me getting rejected, but ultimately it didn’t matter at all. Just don’t take it seriously and realize that everybody has a type and there are always girls that will reject you, just don’t let it pull you down.
That’s all I had to say, hopefully this will help some of you overcome your fear of rejection.
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