[Field Report] #-Close: State is important
– SHAMELESS BREAKDOWN –
*BRIEF: I aimed to work on my tonality and body language
We went out to the strip and it was **packed**. The queues looked like there was a R15,000 price knock off on a QLED TV. The queue to get into one venue stretched all the way to another. It was madness. We gamed but soon realized that there is too much movement, which interrupted our sets. We went to Aandklas, which yielded better results. I learned a lot about not only game but framing and mentality around game. It was as if I was in a dark room and a bird crashed through the fucking window to let in some light. Due to this purposes I am going to add another section to the field rapport called “mentality”. I only really got into state with my last two sets. Which is bad as we gamed for two hours.
If you remember my field rapport titled “Rough Night”, you would recall that I was extremely in my mind. Not being able to tap into my wit and struggled to open again. It happen again. This got me to stop and think about what could be the reason. Why one night I am bombing and opening sets left right and center but the next night I cannot even game a fucking cat. #NotAFurry
Here is what I realized. I have been going out since Tuesday night. Two of which I had wings with me others were solo. I realized the nights my wings were not around me I was more cool and collected. I could open much easier. Which is weird.
In addition, I realized that I get into state way too late. Due to this, I am not utilizing the time I have efficiently. I need to do research on state and how to get into it much earlier.
My wings had anxiety just like we all do. We just stood around talking or dancing for a good 30 – 45 minutes of the night which is a lot of time to waste. We stick together like a mouse caught in a trap. This kills game. I need to rather approach as if I would when going out solo. Doing it as a group every time wastes time and effort.
Lastly, while we were dancing I saw 2 naturals (Guys that natural have game but don’t know about the pickup community) join the dance floor. These guys had genetics on their side. Taller than me, built like line backers (probably are) and a great jaw line. Side note; also make sure you are not batting for the other team. Everybody moved out of their way where I had to push my self through the crowd. They were just standing in the middle of the dance floor, arms crossed and bobbing there head to “Scotty doesn’t know” and that was it. Before too long girls approached them, which I spotted earlier and I realized how strong their frames are. I do not have a proper frame. I need to do research and build my own frame then train it. It was spectacular to see how these guys had such strong frames. Oh by the way, they did not have game so the girls moved on.
*3 BEST SETS:*
I really only got into state after I finished up with a girl that send a pictured to her boyfriend. I would like to bore you with how I fucking struggled to get into state. As I walked, back in with my wings, I saw this girl standing alone in the middle of the road and I approached her. “Do you usually scout out people?” She returned a smile and said “No, half my friends is to the right the other half on the left”, and I squared up rewarding her. She was in the power position though as she was on a step which made her taller than me and I was standing in the highway. I only realized this now while I am writing this rapport. The conversation went great, mostly platonic. It seems I need to work on spiking. I did some breaking rapport and she was starting to enjoy the conversation. While I was, talking a friend of hers came back into the club and needed entrance money. She said give me a few seconds and disappeared to get to him. I realized that I should have isolated the moment it went well. In this case, the friend would not have distracted her. If she did not want to isolate because she was waiting for him I would have known to look out for him and introduce myself the moment he entered which would allow me to stay in set longer. Instead of going over to introduce myself anyway, I did not want to look like a dog waiting for his master to return so I talked to random guys behind them. This was also a mistake because they left without me. One more thing my wing later approached her, they spend a good 20 – 30 minutes with her before I blew the set up. Sorry gents I had to go to bed. This is a hobby and I have work. There is always tonight. I saw her earlier before my wing and should have re-opened. I need to remind myself that the set is not completely lost and re-opening is a viable option.
While the wing was busy with my set from earlier, I saw the guy that lost his shit to the music on the dance floor with two beautiful girls and another guy. I decided to approach. I decided to start talking to the guy that danced like a monkey on cocaine first. I made friends with him and asked him if this was his friends. He said yes and asked him to introduce me. He did so but I introduced myself to my target last. The girl on the end and guy was having a tug of war with her phone. The guy that introduced me immediately left and now I was left standing there. I sat down and tried asking the guy (should I have talked to my target immediately as the other two were busy with their game? If so, how do I get her to focus on me and not the silliness that was going on next to us?) This is the second time this happen to me where I enter the set and a guy and a girl were joking around playing games and me and my target just met so there is no real connection to get into that state. Eventually I got everyone’s attention asking what is going on and tried to make conversation. The guy was real cool with the situation and we had a great chat. I then tried to include the group and my target was interested I could tell though I saw her friend did not like that I killed the buzz. Every cold read I did she shaked her head, yes or no. A song popped up and the two friends sang a long. It was a 6 minute song… I sang along, danced as much as I could and talk to the guy to get the song over with. I tried talking to them while the song was playing but they did not even respond. Though my target and I had eye contact during the whole song. I eventually decided to leave as I got frustrated that no one except the guy is opening up.
My last set was half past 12 in the morning. She went over and asked me if I would like to play pool. Now, I like pool, I was invited to play a round of pool. At first I agree and we struggled to get coins together. We just had platonic chat what she is doing and where she is. Then I saw my wings and realized the time. I decided it’s not a good idea to continue and excused myself. I told her this and she tried hard to get me to stay. I said no and then I realized but she wants me to stay badly, I should just reschedule the pool game. I gave her a hug and told her I have an idea while hugging, she reciprocated well. Let’s reschedule the game to tomorrow night. She was so keen for the idea. I took out my phone. Handed over my phone. Then suddenly grabbed her back “What is my name?” She remembered “10 points to Gryffindor”. I then told her “This number is special you are not allowed to hit on me and I am not cheap” she played along “Dam here I was thinking you will be paying for me”. The back and forth continued. I should have probably gone for the K-Close because we were holding each other the whole time during the exchange but did not. I have a pool game tonight so I can make up for lost actions.
*3 POSITIVES: What did I do well tonight?*
– *I found problems with my inner game, which means I can work on them*
– *I setup a time bridge and number closed*
– *I opened a mixed set properly*
*3 NEGATIVES: What did I NOT do well tonight?*
*(More crass version: Did I fuck tonight? If not, why?)*
– *Did not know how to get the girls in the mixed set to open up*
– *Did not K-Close, I have to start pushing the boundaries with my physicality*
– *Should have isolated my sets much earlier.*
*3 LESSONS: What are the lessons?*
– *A proper and well-enforced frame goes a long way*
– *That I am taking my time getting in state and this needs to be solved.*
– *You always game alone even when you have wings.*
*QUESTIONS: What questions do I have?*
– *How could I have gotten the mixed set to open up?*
*- What is a great way to get in state sooner?*
*1 ACTION ITEM: What am I going to work on tomorrow*
– My last two field rapports proved that I am not spiking enough. I am going to research on emotional spikes and enforce it.
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