How do you initiate the conversation? Are there things not to talk about? Thanks
She has a huge obsession with Disney. I always thought that Disney was aimed towards younger audiences (ages 3-10). She’s in her early 20’s. She has the annual pass, multiple ‘ears’ and she goes to Disneyland A LOT. Don’t get me wrong. She is hands down the most gorgeous and coolest girl I’ve ever met, practically my dream girl. But this Disney obsession makes me a bit uneasy. On the upside, we both like horror films and rock music, so I guess thats ok. Am I jerk for thinking this way? Should I give her a chance? Or is this Disney obsession a red flag?
I’m 21, I’ve been single my whole life, and university isn’t going to last forever. I’m afraid of wasting the best chance I’ll ever get to meet girls and I don’t know what to do.
I’ve tried the libraries and cafes on campus, but I don’t think going to cafes and libraries with the sole intent of meeting girls is the best plan. It just isn’t something I can do for very long before having to go somewhere else. There has to be a better way/place I haven’t figured out yet. It’s hard to maintain a lasting conversation with a girl in a coffee shop while waiting in line to place an order. Sometimes I’m lucky enough to say something witty, they’ll laugh and they’ll walk away after getting their order.
It’s rare that I spot a cute girl next to an empty spot at the library and even when I do, I have only have a small window of time to talk to them because they’re usually focused on doing their work. Only a couple of times was I able to really talk to these girls and I go to the library pretty often. Being the idiot that I am, I couldn’t bring myself to ask for their numbers. That’s something I’ll do next time, but I’ll never know when next time is.
I’ve tried in class, but it’s hard to get a conversation out of anyone in just the couple of minutes you get before and/or after class. I’ve gotten a few numbers by just asking without really getting to talk first, but they clearly weren’t interested in me since they all declined to hangout or ignored me. No problem with that, rejection is normal, but my classes are pretty small so the opportunities are limited. It’s a similar situation to coffee shops and libraries.
I don’t have any friends who are girls. If I did, that would probably be helpful, but it’s hard to make friends with girls without coming across like you’re trying to date them anyway. I’m not seriously involved in any clubs (I’ve been trying to though) and the ones I sometimes go rarely have any girls. I feel like I don’t have many opportunities to talk to girls in my daily life, but maybe they’re there and I just need someone to point out these opportunities for me.