Met her on Wechat. We met once for coffee. We had a great chat. Didn’t expect it to go anywhere, told her I wanted to see her again.
Later in the week, needed the help of a Chinese translator to help me unsub from a dating site, met her and she helped me out. I have her a little something from my garden as a thank you.
We had a great chat. She told me “We can be friends but you can’t fall in love with me”. Ummm.. Ok!
Then coming home she’s texted me 12 times in a row… Affirmations about being happy (I’m quite a happy person), different pictures of herself asking which one I like best…
WTF is this?
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So I (22M) am a college senior that has never actually dated before or done anything related to the opposite sex. I can hold a conversation with women, but cannot figure out dating. My post history chronicles the troubles I have had over the past couple of years.
The one thing that still hurts like a stingray’s barb is my first “date” I had almost 2 years ago. A waitress I knew from a summer camp in middle school recognized me at a restaurant, l asked for her number and she agreed to go get coffee. Halfway through the date, which appeared to be going really well, she casually mentioned her boyfriend and her did something, but it went over my head. I sat through this for 2 hours and left home confused. I have since been cautious of talking to women as I assume they’re in a committed relationship.
I would like to think I’ve made massive strides since then. I’ve been going to the gym several times a week, have tried a sport for the first time, and have gotten better with hygiene and style. I am around girls on a daily basis now because of a coed sports team I am on. There are more girls than guys on this team, and one talked to me for a half an hour yesterday, and the conversation just kept going and could’ve continued. At the same time, I feel as though she may just be slightly extroverted, because she talked to another guy for a while as well when we went on a run today.
On the contrary, there are several girls on the team who appear to be shyer or reserved to their own social group of girls. These are the ones that I run out of things to talk about, even though I might be physically attracted to them. It’s also evident when we stretch at the end of our practices, as the girls and guys tend to sit on opposite sides of the room.
I guess what I’m trying to figure out is, who is attracted to me? How do I get a date? And how can I not be nervous (or hopeless) talking to girls, when everyone else is too?
Why should I stand out? What makes me special?
Tl;dr: it’s hard for me to determine who has a genuine interest/attraction to be based on conversation. I can’t tell if someone who may be introverted or may be extroverted is attracted to me.
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Fast Seduction vs The Date Model
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