I’ve been thinking a lot for a couple of days about the dynamics of *interesting* and unconventional conversation topics and this sub seems to be a treasure chest full of it.
In addition to this, I’m also looking for a style of conversation that appears to be random and fictional – something that just keeps giving. I was talking to a gent in a previous thread where he mentioned he used to come up with fictional tales of how he was in the Bolivian Intelligence Agency and detailed his adventures in a way to both have something to talk about and make the girl laugh.
I’d also like to know an unconventional method to open a with a girl without starting with her name. I came up with up a ‘look at that couple there, how long do you think till she slaps him” and something on those lines.
1. How do you approach a potential girl when they’re in groups?
2. When there’s a lull in the convo, I simply stare at her with a half smile. This generally goads her to come up with something. I’d like to have a proper backup- what’s yours?
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Before winter hit (December) I had a decent amount of success hitting on girls when out (IOIs, makeouts, numbers, no lays though). But I’ve been in a slump since then. I think because I haven’t gotten laid in almost a year, I’ve been taking rejection too personally and lay in my bed the next morning after a night out for hours feeling down about not getting any ass. It’s funny because the past 2 nights out I barely even approached a girl and still felt shitty the next morning. I know what I have to do, because I’ve been able to do it.
1. Stop taking rejection personally
2. Stop feeling down
3. Have a happier/abundance mindset
I think if I get over this slump (could just be a winter thing) I can go back to having more success.
How do I get back to approaching and not feeling down like this?
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i eat fairly healthy. i have a decent social life and go out once or twice a month. exercise at home three days a week. avid meditator. i read a lot of spiritual books and make a concious effort to be present throughout my day. i shower every morning with the last thirty seconds on cold (became a big wim hof fan recently). despite being 5’7 and 130lbs i’m still pretty attractive. i haven’t watched porn once this year. i’m in an uncomfortable amount of debt (about 5k excluding car loans) but i work two jobs that i enjoy.
i don’t do all of these things to try to impress girls, or anyone else. i do them to improve my lifestyle to be healthier and happier. you would think you would just have to be moderately normal, healthy and not socially retarded to stand out amongst the majority of men who are creeping the shit out of girls.
the fact that i am moving heaven and earth to be a better person and it’s still not enough makes me want to pull my fucking hair out of my head and throw myself off of a building. i cold approach. i stopped using dating apps because i have mental breakdowns after so many women will use every fiber in their body to think of a reason to reject me and say they can’t meet with me on a date. i thought women wanted to meet new guys, and had a sex drive like we do.
i don’t know what to do anymore. i wake up every single god damn morning and this is all i can think about. i care too much, and i don’t want to care anymore. i just want to work on my finances and my music, and not have to suffer and be fucking miserable because i’m invisible to women.
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What do you say to a girl (over text) that tells you blatantly “I can’t wait to fuck you” or something similarish along those lines.
I always find myself in like a weird middle ground between not trying to appear desperate but also need to return some of that energy. Just looking for a bit of advice
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I met a cool/very pretty Taiwanese girl at a meetup event today, we hit it off quite well. Lots of laughing/touching on her part, and she even came to find me and say goodbye before she left the place. We swapped numbers before then (she asked for my number, but I think she asked for several people’s numbers in the event so it doesn’t mean much). She also made a couple of suggestive comments like “You would be really popular among girls in Taiwan”.
I didn’t suggest meeting her again while we were in person, so I asked her out a few hours later via text. She basically blew me off straight away with a bad excuse, which was surprising given the amount of attraction I was getting off her in person. Here’s the message chain:
>**Me:** Hey Abigail! Was nice to meet you today, and glad you appreciated my accent 😉
>**Her**: It was my pleasure to meet you too. Yeah I really liked your accent and sense of humour. I’m really looking forward to seeing you next time 👍
>**Her:** This is the Chinese New Year event I was talking about, if you want more info just see here ___________.
>**Me:** Looks good! You going?
>**Her:** Nope I went to it last Tues. You should go though 👍
>**Me:** Oh then we need to find some other excuse to meet!
>**Me:** There’s a Taiwanese place called _____ in ______ that I’m planning to check out next week. Want to come?
>**Her:** 😆what a lovely excuse!
>**Her**: Sorry JDillaLikesDonuts 😭. I planned to do some decorating for my room the next couple of weeks. No worries just leave it to me. I’ll find the “excuse” to ask you out
>**Me:** You’re decorating your room every day for 2 weeks? 😂 Okay looking forward to it
Why would she seem so interested in person and through text, even message me first, then immediately proceed to block my attempt to ask her out? An obvious answer might be that I misread her, but through experience I think I’m generally quite good at picking up whether or not girls have that initial attraction to me.
Wondering if this is an obvious lost cause or whether I should hit her up again in a couple of weeks in the likely situation that she still hasn’t hit me up.
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She’ll Text Me, She’ll Text Me Not
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I guess I can’t expect too much from a Canadian.
A walking, breathing, male vayjayna.
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