Numbers game?

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Question for the good looking guys of this subreddit, how often are you rejected at the club/bar?

Ive always been very introverted with social anxiety and I’ve recently been putting myself out there after reading “ Models “ by Mark Manson. Anyways the last few times I’m able to push through the fear and attempt an approach I get shut down.

Now not to pat myself on the back here but I’ve been told by people around me that I’m a handsome guy and a couple people said I should try out modelling but Ive still been single and getting rejected when out at the club. I mean I rarely approach maybe like twice in one night
Is it really just a numbers game then cause I will try like two attempts on a night out and then feel shitty with a bruised ego the rest of the night.

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The return of the “PUA”

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First, i was never fully involved in daygame training, the closest i was from there was practicing with women i met in work, in a store, etc. more like a library rat, learning a lot about theory, but almost nothing compared with i could do, it may be an important factor of this phenomena.

Due reasons that in the end are not more than excuses, i left the social dynamic practice, and became near to the boi i was before knowing the community, with an invisible wall of “rust” in me. I percieve that my hability to “translate” women or corporal language, as the mood of people in most of cases is fading more slowly, thing that i can lean on to continue (or begin) my training, and also gives me a hope (the flesh is weak, overall for sloth when you realize how far you are from your objectives).

Does this happen only in this case, or is it more normal, maybe something we all have to deal with?

In any case, Im thankful to recieve a tip to overcome this, as someone in the same situation that could be helped…

success for you all

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Should I ask her or not?

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Planning on having sex with my girl on Valentine’s Day. Should I let her know my intentions (pretty sure she wants to) or should I just see what happens on Valentine’s Day and not tell her beforehand?

My plan is just watching a movie with her and when we start making out and get really into it I tell her lets go to the bedroom and yeah you know what happens after that.

What do you guys think?

Comment your advice!

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Cant get laid even with good looks and average confidence.

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First time poster but running out of options and getting desperate. I never really got any attention from girls until recently when I got into serious shape and changed up my style. However my issue is the lack of confidence to either engage with a girl when she is checking me out or when closing and trying to bring her back to my place. Ill give you a couple of examples. Last weekend I went out to the club with my friends, we were standing by the bar and this group of girls was a couple feet from us. One of the girls saw me and kept looking back at me every 30 seconds. Then she elbowed her friend and pointed in my direction. I clearly saw that but decided not to act because I was overthinking what I was going to say If I did end up walking over to them. Half an hour later I was buying drinks for my friends, and these 2 girls were standing behind me. My friends said they were clearly checking me out and I noticed that also. But I never managed to talk to them because I didn’t drink enough or waited too long. Another day, I met saw a girl checking em out but didn’t do anything, however she added me on instagram even though I didn’t talk to her in person. I saw her again at a club and started flirting with her because I really wanted to get with her. She was really responding well because she danced really close and wanted to kiss me. However she was already quite drunk so I told her friends to take her home. Yesterday, I saw her again and talked to her and her friends. However after a brief introduction she turned to a guy right next to us and got really close to him to chat, possibly to get with. In the mean time I was talking to her friend, about the other night. As soon as I saw her with the other guy I decided to leave to my friends. I was looking back trying to figure out If she was getting with the guy but suddenly her and her friends disappeared. Today is Saturday and I really want to go out and get with a girl. I am gonna go out of my way to beat my anxiety and succeed.

Is there anything I am doing wrong, and what should I do to become more confident?

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I really like this girl but…

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She has a huge obsession with Disney. I always thought that Disney was aimed towards younger audiences (ages 3-10). She’s in her early 20’s. She has the annual pass, multiple ‘ears’ and she goes to Disneyland A LOT. Don’t get me wrong. She is hands down the most gorgeous and coolest girl I’ve ever met, practically my dream girl. But this Disney obsession makes me a bit uneasy. On the upside, we both like horror films and rock music, so I guess thats ok. Am I jerk for thinking this way? Should I give her a chance? Or is this Disney obsession a red flag?

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[FR] From Third Date, how can I escalate it to a relationship / physical / sexual ?

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I’m 24 and met a nice girl on Bumble a few weeks back (That was very much my type), however only got to meet in person about 2 weeks ago.

(2 Weeks ago): First date was meeting in the local bar in town, we just both had one drink then she drank soft drinks and so did I, we chatted in detail getting to know each other, sitting opposite each other. We stayed until the bar shut, then I walked her back to the train station, I went in for a kiss on the lips goodbye however got rejected and she turned her cheek. Whilst with her I scheduled the next date, that was dinner through the week and hopefully some mini-golf after.

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(1.5 Weeks ago, 3 days later from 1st date): 2nd Date, met for dinner at a local Italian restaurant (Which was our favourite cuisine together), again sat opposite each other, and enjoyed the conversation over dinner. Then asked her about Minigolf after dinner, however she said it was a little late and was quite tired, so we just stayed talking the rest of the evening at the restaurant, until it shut. Then walked her to her car, and got her to kiss me on the cheek goodbye. It came up in conversation that she does a local park run every Saturday morning at 9am, with her gym crew friends. I somewhat self invited myself. However the day before I pulled out, as I felt it was a little stalkerish just showing up to her local run, with her friends, plus wouldn’t be with her that long as she was going to the gym (Which I’m not a member of) after, and then had a jam packed weekend.

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My largest observation from the first two dates, was that we could talk endlessly about ourselves, and find common topics of conversation, however I wasn’t sure how to turn conversation into something more.

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Currently I’ve been single for just over 2 years, since an Ex of 2 years in University and have only had two girl friends before, the other one being in the end of high school for just about 2 years. Previously the girlfriend in university happened in one day, where we were living in the same building and I met and then went to her dorm room with a bottle of wine and we watched a rom com, and then escalated it and started making out, which lead to sex on her bed ( I think the wine would have helped back then 😉 ).

However now with this single spell of no sex or girls for 2 years, I find myself out of touch, especially on how to game without alcohol and game on multiple dates to lead up to sex.

So I read quite a few posts on /r/seduction and also read “Double your Dating” by David Deangelo. Previously I had listened to the audio book “The Game” by Neil Strauss, and read half of the “How to Lay Girls Guide” that Style talks about in the beginning of the Game. Also watched quite a few videos on youtube by Style (Neil Strauss).

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Today: 3rd Date, Met for takeaway hot chocolates and went for a walk in the local park by the seafront to watch the sunset. Got some good conversation, holding her hand, and talked about the surroundings trying to make her more present in the moment. Asked her what she’s fascinated about ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5zzL1g9ZI4](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5zzL1g9ZI4)), what came out was currently the gym (sporting exercises, i.e. running, gym, hand stands and calisthenics), and crime thriller TV shows. Played Style’s 5 question game ([https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23Dt1xb9oIw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23Dt1xb9oIw)), on her and that then lead to good Kino with hugging and laughing. [However I was unsure on how to escalate this into a kiss, or something more]. We did sit down and stare somewhat into each others eyes, however just talking still. Ended up continuing to walk in the park and ended up doing some handstands with her. Walked back to a local bistro-pub and got pint of cider, and played some table football for a couple of games then we both ordered burgers and chips. Whilst we were eating, she was telling me about a house party that happened the last weekend and how an old man tried to stroke her back and put his hand on her inner thigh. She did it to me, and I did the same back to her, I felt quite turned on that moment, and we did stare into each others eyes, then laughed it off. She was showing me some photos on her phone of the party, and then I decided to show her some of a fancy restaurant I went to in another city with a mate, however she saw a tinder message notification on my phone, and she seemed somewhat put off by this. (I’m not sure how to bring this up her, I’m hoping that it will be okay, she’s by far the best match I’ve had and liked allot after meeting). She then ended up drinking soft drinks again, and I did the same. We played some more table football for quite a few games and then she said she was tired, so I walked her back to the train station. This time she went in for a kiss goodbye on the lips and then left.

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We talked about I could join her for a run after her work through the week just me and her. We also talked about that she’d like to watch game of thrones some time, however she said she’s put off by dates that have tried to get to “Chill” and watch game of thrones (As she’s told me about a tinder that invited her to his house to make pizza’s and then tried to have sex with her after some TV, however she said she ended up leaving and was put off by it). Talking with her, she’s been out of the dating game for 3 years also, she talks quite quickly and can get flustered quite easily.

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So reddit, any feedback, and on next steps whats the best way to escalate the relationship to something sexual ? As I’ve read I should not be a nice guy, as women want a sexual partner that then gets turned into a long term partner. Any particular date ideas, that we could do ? Also specifically is there any games I could do to get more sexual attraction ? And or get us passionately kissing each other ?

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