This is probably gonna be useful for beginners to seduction, as I’m also still around that stage in regards to my experience and overall game. But I’ve made major strides in every department over the past couple of years. One thing that’s always kind of lagged behind, though, is eye contact. Even after reading posts saying to practice making eye contact with people walking by and friends I talk to, I still found myself instinctually looking away. I chalked it up to lack of experience, but over the past couple of weeks, I’ve found a cue that might help you out as well.
Notice how when you look out your window and glance at a tree far away, you can describe its general features (colour, shape, distance) without too much effort. But to hone in on finer details – such as if there are any birds hanging out on it, the shape of a specific branch, the pattern on a specific leaf, etc. – you have to “focus” your eyes on the object. Eyelids open up a bit more, your peripheral vision reduces, and you can kind of feel the muscles controlling your eyes contracting to get that extra focus in. This allows you to analyze those small details that you may not have noticed from just a glance.
Now, I’m not saying that you need to describe every blood vessel and speck in a girl’s eyes, but I find that just looking at them isn’t enough because it allows me to break the eye contact easily look at something else. If you look away too much as well, you need to look INTO their eyes and focus on them; let them know that they’ve caught your attention nonverbally. I find paying that extra attention helps me not break the eye contact when girls look back. As a result, I’ve been noticing minor changes in how girls I know and don’t know react – the ones I know are more attentive when we chat and seem to converse better, and ones I don’t know seem to “check me out” more and even smile back when I smile at them. Nothing game changing at all, of course, but as someone who struggled with even looking at an attractive girl while talking to them before, this is definitely progress.
I’m going clubbing next week with some friends, so I’ll see how this works on the dance floor haha. My hookups have all been from making the first move physically, but never from making initial eye contact like others on this sub have described.