Where do I daygame?

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I’m currently home from college for the summer and I want to go out and meet a bunch of people but i’m not 21, so I cant go to the bars, and there isn’t much to do in my town that would result in meeting people regularly? For the people who had this problem what were some of your solutions?

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“You should invite me over to your place for lunch”….?

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Is this ok after establishing rapport? Too forward? Too cocky?

Better way to frame this?

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Girl acting uninterested after I push her back. Shit test or nah?

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I was dancing with this girl, eventually I got her to chase after me quite a bit.
As we were out to smoke with friends (they cockblocked me) I started talking to other girls rather than her. When we went back on the dance floor she went to dance with one of her friends she kissed before/talks a lot to. Not sure if that’s a shit test or they really lose interest quickly like that. She didn’t really try to talk to me or anything even when I said something to her.

Keep in mind I was a fucking male slut that night flirting with every girl, she saw a lot were chasing me etc. So maybe it was a way to get back at me? What do you think?

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Qualifying Girls Before The First Date

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Hi everyone,

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I had a really bad first date where I admittedly made some mistakes, but also I think factors out of my control were working against me. In order to avoid having this happen again, I want to get better at “qualifying” girls before our first date. I live in New York and work in finance so i’m not short on money. I also live in Soho so i’m within walking distance to most of lower manhattan. My main thing is though that I’m still fresh out of school so I don’t want to waste money on dates that will inevitably not go anywhere. So far I’ve come up with three things….

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1) If a girl is not willing to meet up with you in the evening, then don’t spend any money.

I’m fine with dates walking around the city / park, but for day time / casual dates, i’ve found that the success rate of getting a second date is super slim. My theory is that a day time date has a vibe of being casual and friendly, which kills the mystery involved in first meeting a new potential sex partner. The only time I ever got a follow up date after a coffee meetup was in college during a school break where most of campus was empty. Limiting day time dates to free activities will help me be sure to not waste money in the event that these girls ghost me. Which brings me to my next point.

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2) Never go out on a date with a “time line”.

What I mean by this is that if a girl is like ” yeah i’d love to meet but i’ve got x commitment with my friends later on so lets just meet for an hour or so”.

Essentially the way I see this is that again, the attraction and sexual vibe is killed by the time hanging over your head. The vibe of the date becomes less of “i wanna get to know you” and more of “what should i talk about for an hour before this is over”. Not to mention that there is about a 5% chance that these dates end up in me getting laid. The only way i’ll go on these in the future is if I get to choose the venue so I have somewhat of a chance to escalate.

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3) If a girl doesn’t drink alcohol, or says she’s not really into going out, next her immediately.

I’ve been around long enough to know that even girls who say they want relationships are open to hook ups, but I’ve never gone on a date with a girl who was hesitant about getting drunk where I’ve had any kind of success. As douchey as that may sound to write off a girl just cuz she doesn’t like drinking, the numbers don’t lie.

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TLDR: I live in New York, One of the most expensive cities on the planet, and I want to figure out ways to determine the likelihood of a girl hooking up with me prior to starting the dating process. This post obviously doesn’t apply to me going out to bars at night but I do a solid mix of that plus tinder, hinge, etc.

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If anyone has advice on good questions to ask or ways to get an idea of how willing/ quickly a girl is willing to have sex, I’d be happy to pick your brains. Help a friend save money lol

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Field report: going out alone for the first time

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I’m really anxious about clubs and nightgame (which I never did of course), so I thought I’d try going out and seeing what happens, to kick myself out of the comfort zone a bit.

**Before going out:**

1. Got into a social mood by speaking with people at work, going to a lunch with a girl I approached earlier (turned out she had a bf though). Went to the gym, chatted with one guy about music, met a buddy from work.
2. Approached one girl. She was resting in between sets.
1. “Hey, sorry to interrupt you. You remind me of my friend, who is really pretty, I wanted to say hi.”
2. “Haha, but seems like I’m not her”
3. “I thought you were for a second. Maybe you have a sister”
4. “No, only a brother”
5. “Maybe you have one, you just don’t know”
6. Off to a discussion about where she’s from, where we study/work etc. She was talkative but didn’t seem willing to exchange contacts when I asked.
3. I randomly complemented another girl in the gym, she was very surprised.

**Going out:**

1. Went to a nearby club at around 9:30 PM (it opens at 7) and there were about 7 people, a bartender was giving a talk on how to prepare drinks. Turned out this place is usually empty until 11, so I helped a bit, chatted with the staff, got a free drink. Approached a couple of girls, but they were all working there and didn’t have the time to talk.
2. Left this place to check out a club nearby. Also almost empty, asked the bartender if they have WiFi, he said “no” and stared at me like I’m an idiot. The place is kinda funny and stupid, so I left.
3. Went to check out another club. It was empty. Chatted with a girl from the staff, she said it’s usually empty unless they have an event.
4. Went to other two places, one was closed, another one seemed lame.
5. Came back to the first place, it was still empty (10:30).
6. Went to my favorite bar nearby with craft beer, where I know the staff. Nobody to approach, I just chilled out for half an hour.
7. Checked facebook, turned out there’s a jazz jam session in a club nearby. Went there, the place is small, but there are lots of people, especially girls. The problem is, there’s almost no place to sit down. Chatted with the musicians during the break, but they were busy and didn’t want to talk a lot. During the next break there was a girl near me, she came with friends, but they were away.
1. “Hey! I don’t have my buddies with me tonight, may I join you?”
2. “Sure!”
3. “What’s your name?”
4. “<name>” (she looked insanely surprised, lol)
5. “Was that an unexpected question?”
6. don’t remember the response
7. Chatted a bit about jazz and music schools.
8. The band started playing and another group of girls sat near me. The first one seemed a bit disinterested, so I started talking with this group during the next break:
1. “Hello by the way”
2. “Hi!”
3. Off to a discussion about how we ended up in this place
9. Similarly, another two girls from the same group sat down near me on the other side. Next break:
1. “Hey, you’re also from the music academy?”
2. Girl 1: “Yes! We’re all from the same group”
3. “Cool, I live near the academy, but I don’t study there”
4. Girl 1: “Haha”
5. “Yea, I just sit at home playing guitar near my PC”
6. Girl 1: “Wow, cool”
7. “What are your names?”
8. Girl 1: “<name1>”
9. “Wow, that’s a really strange name! Haven’t heard it before!”
10. Girl 1: “Everyone says that!”
11. Girl 2: “<name2 from the next girl>, is it strange as well?”
12. (while holding her hand) “not sure, I think I might have heard it somewhere. Just so you know, my actual name is a bit different: <my_name>, so you also met a strange person today.”
10. The band starts playing again. Next break, turned to the first girl:
1. “You have really weird pants”
2. “Those aren’t pants”
3. “I’m not that knowledgeable in this field, those look like pants to me”
4. “Ok”
11. They left to smoke. I was also about to leave the club. Said goodbye to the first girl (the one who was astounded when I asked her name), she was sitting at the bar talking to her friend. When leaving the club, I said goodbye to the smoking girls, they looked at me but didn’t respond.

**Summary.**

Overall, it was nice to get a bit out of my comfort zone, but it seems a bit pointless. Regular clubs seem boring to me, I’m not a huge fan of that atmosphere, but maybe I’ll give them another chance when they are not empty. It’s much more fun when there’s an actual event (especially quality live music), but nobody there was interested in me, since everyone came with their friends. No idea how I could escalate those discussions anywhere.

Thoughts and suggestions much appreciated 🙂

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Situation: How to know if a girl is interested in you?

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Sorry, long.

So, there’s this girl who is quite attractive that I’ve known for a while and we might’ve been friends but haven’t really spent a lot of time with. Fast forward to two weeks ago, I met her and a bunch of friends unexpectedly at a bar and there she was. I spent most if not my whole night talking with her and she was hella complimenting me and like talking to me but I’m not quite sure if it was just the alcohol/she’s a nice person. Anyway, recently I’ve been going out with her group of friends and I don’t see anything indicative but she’s always sort of rubbing against my arms or something, but not a ton of eye contact tho. What’s going on lmao? Is there a way to actually find out if she’s interested? I could ask her directly but that’s not the ideal way I believe.

Alright thanks for reading and any pointers to this really small situation helps.

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