So I haven’t really bar gamed in a while, but was invited to go with a friend of mine to see some of his fellow musicians perform at a bar in Miami. I’ve done so much direct daygame, but I know doing the, hey I know this is random but, thing won’t really work in a bar?
My plan is just to be super present and have a good time. But if a girl catches my eye, how should I approach? I’m thinking of just looking at her until we lock eyes and just wait for an AI approach invitation, a smile or something, then just go and introduce myself.
A question that keeps bothering me. I’m 31, and I don’t think I am ready for marriage. Despite the fact a fair few my age have settled down, I still love going out to clubs, having a good time, picking up etc (despite the fact I haven’t mastered my game and am still relying on luck.)
So, a question. Is there any particular age, or age bracket, when going out to clubs as a single male just becomes desperate, creepy and weird and he really should just forget about it? Because I feel like I’m at a crossroads and receiving conflicting information. On the one hand, I feel it should be time to find a life partner because I’m not getting any younger. On the other, I feel a 30 something guy in good shape with his shit together could plausible date girls ten years either side of him.
I know what’s most important is voice intonation (I’d like to read about that if you have a link) and body language and not what you say when starting a conversation but sometimes I feel the need to use an opener script. The problem is most opinion openers and other kinds of openers I’ve read about seem fake, unnatural, and the situations they describe are simply too hard to believe for me. For example: “Excuse me… My friends are waiting for me but… Would you date someone who is still friends with their ex? ‘Cause I’ve got a friend who had a box full of pictures of his ex and him and when his girlfriend found it, she burned it and threatened to cut off his dick while he slept…”. Bro, I imagine myself being a girl and hearing that from a random stranger, I’d immediately know that that guy just made up that story so he could catch my interest and that would be a real turn off for me (Just why the hell would he tell that story to a random stranger without any context whatsoever?). Unless you have some serious storytelling technique, I don’t see that working as a good way to start a conversation. A situational opener, asking for information or just introducing yourself seems to me a lot better than making up such a ridiculous story just to open a conversation. This sort of thing makes me lose my faith in some seduction methods and feel a fool for actually spending money on them. What do you guys think?
For the Mark Manson and James Marshall fans out there, and consequently, if you’re an avid direct gamer, intentions are prime in gaming. But first, what IS an intention?
You see, I think I’ve been doing approaches all wrong. You know what I said about intentions? According to the dictionary, an intention is “a thing intended; an aim or plan”. Yeah, I want to go out and meet and fuck women, but my real intentions (or aim) was trying to do a numbers game.
For example, I go out and subconsciously tell myself “Alright I’m going to do 5 approaches today”. All my mind hears is ‘5 approaches’. They can be shit approaches or good approaches. All that matters to my brain and consequently, my intentions is ‘meet 5 girls’.
What I really should be doing is forgetting about the approach number. Instead, just think about ‘I want to get laid. I want sex.’ Instead of ‘approach 5 girls’.