Im still a pussy


So im out of town hanging with my buddy in Mississippi. Im from Pennsylvania and yet I cant seem to talk to the cute girls. I can talk to random people. But good looking girls I just clam up and can even approach. Can anyone help me with this. New Orleans tomorrow I need to get some balls.


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Why do girls choose other guys over me?


Hey Seddit,

I’ve been developing myself for along time. I have improved my appearance (dress, fitness), am well read and have studied game for a while. I can talk well and do not lack in confidence. And yet girls I know in real life, consistently choose other guys over me. I don’t know why – but I do know that the only common factor between all these different girls is myself.

Recent example, I moved to a new city, new school with entirely new people. I liked this one girl in my class (she is thiccc) and asked her out for drinks, but she wasn’t much interested at the time. I have made some moves, but she wasn’t particularly enthusiastic. Instead, she replied to my friends story on insta (no girls ever reply to mine 😭) saying its rude that she didn’t receive an invite to the dinner in a joking way (she’s away to another city right now). He was asking me for advice on what to respond. Of course he’s my friend and I will help him (although I like the girl too – its not his fault she chose him over me, I wouldn’t jeopardize a male friendship over a girl) but it just makes me sad deep inside that girls never do this to me.

This same friend also has another girl interested in him from our class (she was messaging him or hugging him tightly in the club when we went as a class), but he isn’t taller or more stronger than me or more well read. He is richer though and has the newest ipad, maybe that’s why? Again, I would never jeopardize a friendship with a male over a girl, but I want to understand what he does.

I post stories frequently and see that many girls see them (some haven’t missed a single story of mine) but none of them ever reply. I’ve posted stories of me travelling the world, in the gym, exploring different places, etc – and have never had any engagement from females – only my guy friends will write to me.

Maybe I am coming off the wrong way? I have no idea.

All I know, is that I want to have girls messaging me and choosing me!

Please advise.

PS. Never had a girlfriend (I’m 26) and never hooked up with a girl that was not from the internet (dating apps). Closest I got to a girlfriend was when I was on a trip to South America, travelled around with a girl I met there for a bit and she showed me affection – but we didn’t even speak the same language and I left back home soon.

I don’t know what’s wrong with me and its killing my confidence (I actively work to resist this but still sometimes one feels discouraged when everything he tries is a fail).

PPS. I have considered asking people I know irl about my vibe, but have been afraid to do it – a man admitting he has problems with girls would make other men think worse of me. I have asked some people that know me personally, they said everything is fine or that ‘I am who I am and to own it’. But that is an unsatisfying answer. Someone else said that I sometimes sexualize too much or take jokes too far or that I am blunt.


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I’m chatting to this woman from a dating app who is an au pair. She only had one photo in her profile. I asked her to send more photos. One of the photos she sent it looked like she was an elementary school teacher in her country. The photo was like so blatantly about showing “look I’m a teacher”. I thought that was a fucking turnoff, both the fact she is a teacher and the fact she wanted to show it off. I prefer simple women, preferably no college education and no driver’s license. Should I skip her? Or just pump and dump? What do? She sent a bunch of other photos now and I think she’s very plain looking. I fucking regret that I dumped another woman from the same country who also was an au pair about a month ago, because she was hotter.


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