Have any of you ever hit the night clubs by yourselves? Is it good or bad not to have a wing man and what were your results?
So when texting girls and just trying to talk about whatever, sometimes I kind of just want to know more about the girl but in a general sense.. Idk. So I always tell them, “So tell me something about you?”
I’ve been trying to think of something else I can say as I think the way I’m saying it is kinda played out and lame.
We often find ourselves being told by common culture that love only happens once in a lifetime. That one can only love one person at a time, so on and so forth.
As a heterosexual male, i’ve found my perspective to be very different from this. At the moment, i easily have a crush on 3-4 women, none of whom im friends with currently. So the problem i face is that, if i like all of them at the same time, it can’t possibly be the ‘real’ love everyone talks about.
Will ‘getting to know’ them help me explore whether or not i love them? Because from my past experiences, i’ve fallen badly for each woman i had a crush on, once i started talking to them. And if so, then doesn’t that dictate that there is no such thing as ‘love’ or ‘love at first sight’? Can anyone relate? Does it make me a bad person if i like multiple women at the same time?
I’ve ran into this situation countless times. I’m not really phased if she rejects me, but *I just want to make sure I learn from previous mistakes*. Theres a very pretty girl who I have spoken to briefly before in person. She’s in the social circle but an outer one. Showed a bit of premise, had her giggling and tried to take her to another spot (go get a drink at the bar) to which she said she had to stay with her friends. I wanted to take her somewhere else too early into the interaction, so it didn’t work. Lesson learnt.
She’s always been the one really consistent person on social media liking my stuff (doesn’t really suggest much these days). Anyways I forgot about her and I was at a club talking to some friends at a table. She was standing close-by and we made eye contact. I gave her a smile and she came over to me, gave me a kiss on the cheek as a greeting and asked if I was going out to a club in town. I said no, to which she replied no as well, saying that she’s going to go home. Anyways, she said she was going to go talk to her friends and that she’d chat to me later. I didn’t see her that night, because I was engrossed in a conversation with some friends over cigarettes. The next day I hit her up on snapchat (I know most people go for number closes and then call or text, but I feel like everyone my age would find that very weird) and built a bit of rapport on the chat feature. Then she started sending me pictures of her first before I sent one of me. Been snapping for maybe 2 days (not back and forth, maybe once or twice a day each). Got a couple of suggestive snapchats of her in a sports bra with a bit of cleavage, but didn’t think much of it. Left it seen for a couple of hours. Sent one back when I wasn’t busy doing things to which she didn’t respond for 20 hrs. Then she sent me a photo of her making up her timetable. I was thinking maybe this was supposed to sway me in the direction of asking her out?
Anyways, I’ve never really had a definite and excited ‘yes’ to come on a date with me. This girl is smoking hot but I’ve constantly reminded myself that she’s just another girl, with the bonus of looking a tad more attractive. So… seddit, what is your take on my sitaution and where to from here?