Experience confessing to a girl from your social circle


I need to gauge if it‘s worth taking the risk. I‘m fucking shit at reading signals but my boys tell me there might be interest on her side (which I assume they tell me because they are my boys).

She send me a text today confirming the gathering of our social circle for tomorrow. Which she could have done in our WhatsApp friend group. Alone on this my best friend told me to just all-in soon.

I‘m pretty into her but I‘m not sure she noticed that, because again, I‘m so shit at reading signals.

We keep in contact over Snapchat and she sends me selfies regularily, which I‘m the only boy in the social circle she sends them to I‘m pretty sure.

So only going by this, would you guys says it‘s worth trying this? I live in Germany and we are in our early twenties.

I need your advice on this topic urgently AND BE BRUTALLY HONEST!


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6 thoughts on “Experience confessing to a girl from your social circle”

  1. You’ll only know if you make some moves. Try to escalate, more touching, eye contact, etc. You need to smoothly bring some sexual tension, otherwise she will see you as a friend and we all know how difficult and painful it is to climb out of the friendzone.

  2. Just do it :/.

    The longer you wait the less confident you will seem. Are you waiting for her to hit you over the head with a mallet and tell you she likes you?

    Doesn’t matter. If she rejects you and you don’t get weird about it you can stay friends. Waiting isn’t going to get her to like you more or develop attraction for you. Waiting will only neuter anything that could be there.

    Wouldn’t it be better to get it out of the way and move on?

  3. Yes go for it. If ever a guy friend of mine encourages me, I definitely make a move. Because if OTHERS can see chemistry … it’s probably there and you’re being too much of a pussy to realise it or do something about it.

    So what if she rejects you? Who cares. You’re a man not a boy right? You can take it and deal with some potential awkwardness if it comes to that.

    Now go make a move and do it confidently and boldly in person.

  4. Whatever you do, be aware if you “confess your undying love” to her, chances are high she will feel weirded out and try to avoid you. Better play it cool. Seduce her to think it was her idea to get into something with you.

    Source: my stupid self doing exactly that (well just telling her that I feel something for her) and she went “we are too different, lbjf”. After that she started avoiding me.

  5. Don’t shit where you eat. Don’t date your friends/coworkers/dorm mates , it doesn’t work out 99% of the time. Odds are you’re not the exception.

    Then there are two paths. One: you lose the friend for good and in this case, potentially get cast out of the social group. Two: she thinks you’re weird as shit/everything is insanely awkward.

    If you do date her, then break up and stay friends/part of the same group…. do you really want to watch her flirt with other dudes, hear about her getting smashed by other dudes?

    I’ve dated friends. It’s fun while it’s happening, but odds are, you’re tossing the friendship in the trash. Not worth it imo, you’re in your early 20’s. You’re probably not marrying her, so it’ll just end problematically.

  6. Do not “confess” anything. It will bring nothing good.


    Confessing is not part of seduction. Is not necessary, and is actually pretty bad, because it makes you pass as needy.


    You have to take a woman to bed by seducing her, not by asking her or trying to convince her. Woman want to receive pleasure from a man, not to give.


    Confessing is the attitude of somebody inferior, who is begging love. Women find that disgusting.

    You have to caress her from a position of an adult who is caressing a baby.

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