How to talk to a girl in a public place without creeping her out

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I saw this girl in gym , she keeps on checking on me everyday. I kind a think it would be creepy to talk to a girl in gym

How to talk to a girl in public transit ?

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Self fulfilling prophecy: If you truly think you are unworthy of love and affection and will be alone forever, you will be.

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Whether You Think You Can…Or Whether You Think You Can’t…You’re Right. Your attitude and perception makes a big difference in your life. If you have a miserable outlook, you won’t take the necessary actions to put yourself out there and attract the right kinds of women. If you are insecure, and have deep rooted insecurities and worry about being alone, women will see that, and leave, causing a positive feedback loop that “proves” you were right all along: that you will die alone and miserable. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy

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How shoud I ask if she’s dating other guys?

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So I went on 4 dates with this girl. We already kissed and stuff, but I thought it we were going to a more serious side.

But I got the feeling she’s still dating other people too. I don’t wanna come of as jealous (which I am tho), so how do I ask the question? Can I just ask it blatantly over text?

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Been looking for a new line… “Tell me something about you.” (Text Game).

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So when texting girls and just trying to talk about whatever, sometimes I kind of just want to know more about the girl but in a general sense.. Idk. So I always tell them, “So tell me something about you?”

I’ve been trying to think of something else I can say as I think the way I’m saying it is kinda played out and lame.

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Anyone interested in RSD Max mentoring program?

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Just want to know how many of us still interested and didnt get it if we can make something out of this situation

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Need tips to opening on dance floor game

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Hey guys I need some advice. With dance floor game lately I been going out and just vibing on the dance floor and I feel like I bring in some girls in my vicinity and that some of them want to be opened. So what’s the best way to open them I need some tips from there and escalation forward.

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My Golden Rule of pickup and how it helped me overcome approach anxiety.

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Yesterday I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/b224z9/almost_4_years_ago_i_hit_rock_bottom_with_my_love/) about my experience in game. Most of the feedback you gave me was about the last point, so I wanted to create a new post to expand on it further.

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My Golden Rule for pickup is simple: *Leave them better than you found them.* I wish I could take credit for it, but it’s something I heard or read somewhere else. Unfortunately, I can’t remember where. It’s a mantra I carried throughout my time in the game and it always served me well. So well, in fact, that I have expanded it to include not just the women I approach, but every social interaction I have, be it with a woman or a man.

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But what does it mean to leave them better than you found them and how can you possibly do this with every single person you interact with? Ultimately, it comes down to being a value-giver or a value-taker. I like how John Maxwell puts it when he said you can either be a lifter or a stander. I see every interaction I have with someone as an opportunity to make their life, or even just their day, a little bit better. I can make them laugh, teach them something new, be an ear for them to vent to, or simply give them an enjoyable conversation. There are countless ways you can provide value. If I fail at that, then it’s likely that I’m actually taking value away. If I’m in a bad mood and let that affect my behavior, ask for favors without reciprocating, or use my words to hurt, just to give a few examples, then I’m actively taking value. When I act in such as way, one would be better off not interacting with me at all.

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So, how is all of this talk about value-giving vs value-taking going to help you get over approach anxiety?

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When I first started with game, I would approach a woman and subconsciously be thinking, *Hehehe, I going to go talk to this girl, use the latest techniques I read on seddit, she will think this is actually who I am and she will give me her phone number.* **In other words, I approached women with the intent of taking value from them** (i.e. her attention, her phone number, her time and, if I was lucky, her body). I consider myself a good person, so deep down this didn’t sit well with me, even if at the time I couldn’t explain exactly why. This feeling manifested itself in the form of approach anxiety. I felt bad that I was taking value without providing value in return, so I would get nervous.

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Over time, I noticed changes in myself that changed my interactions with women. I was on a major self-improvement kick. I was trying new things, pursuing hobbies, traveling, making new friends, killing it at work and getting in better physical shape. As a result, my mindset changed when I would make an approach. I felt excited rather than nervous. Eventually, there came one particular approach where before I took my first step, I thought to myself, *this girl doesn’t know it yet, but I’m about to make her night.* That was my light bulb moment .

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Can you see the difference between the two mindsets I had? **As a beginner, I was actively trying to take value and hoping no one would notice. In my new mindset, I was excited to give value.** This is what took my game to the next level. Before I made an approach, I would think, *I don’t know how this interaction will end, but I can guarantee her night will be better for having met me.* Once I had that mindset, approaching was easy.

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How do you access that mindset though? I came about it organically and accidentally by actively trying to improve myself as a person. While I highly recommend trying to grow as a person, you can achieve this mindset by living the mantra stated above: *Leave them better than you found them*. If you walk into every approach with this as your one and only goal, amazing things will happen.

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What to do when they’re 5+ years older than you

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Alright people so I am 19 and am currently a sophomore in university. I have been going out and dancing salsa a lot and have met a lot of beautiful women, which is great. I just want to know what to say when they say “I think I’m too old for you”. So far I have met a 26 and 25 year old for me and they both say they’re too old, any pointers?

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I got a girl from OK cupid to give me her number and I don’t know what to do now

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I was being flirty and sexual. She laughed a lot at my puns and when I asked her if she had any free days she said she’s busy with school and I gave her a witty reply. She laughed and I asked for a rain check and took her number. I’m looking to get my dick wet and lose my virginity but I’ve got no clue what my next step is.

She gave me her number on Saturday and I only texted her to confirm her number. I made another risqué comment along the lines of “you can call me” avid” because I plan on letting you have the D.” her reply was “🤗🤗🤗” so I think she’s down but I don’t know what to do.

What should be my next step.

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Date with a co-worker in a month (Japan)

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Long story short, there is a girl (25) at this bar I’m (26) working at part-time on weekends, but before I actually started working there, we had talked a lot and eventually I invited her out to eat. I eventually thought I shouldn’t even have asked because I was a regular at that bar even before she started working there, but I felt like there was some interest. We ended up going out to eat at sit down restaurant, it was a weekday night, so I said it’s totally fine if you need to go back early for work tomorrow, and she said she was down until the last train to have a drink at the bar, and let me introduce her to my friend. I introduced her to my friend, and regrettably ended up talking more to him than her. After that, we said we would do something, but time went by us both being busy (moving) and stuff, I just kind of left it alone until recently. This was all before we started working together at the bar. About 7 months ago, also in Japan btw.

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I had asked her to go to a concert with me last December on extremely late notice, just thinking what the hell, and she said she would’ve loved to go but she wished I had asked her earlier so she could’ve taken time off her full time work (it was a weekday). I just took it as a no, but I guess I had unresolved feelings, because the more I talked to her at work I liked her. These feelings got stronger, and even though we’re coworkers (kinda) now and it would be awkward possibly if she rejected me. I ended up biting the bullet and just asking her, and she said she wanted to go, but the rest of this month was kinda busy, so she offered to reschedule in April. I can’t help but think she’s going out due to pity, and obligations of being coworkers and not hurting my feelings, but if she wasn’t interested at all, even all this time later, she probably wouldn’t re-offer, I’m guessing. I haven’t made a move since then, really as the cultural norms in Japan are much different in the states, so I’ve been super conscious of that.

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This might be a bad idea to begin with, but I figured I should just be honest about feelings. How do I convince myself that it’s not just pity? I’m sure she knows I like her, but my friends said likely she does know, but she’s waiting for you to make a move, or trying more to see if were compatible or not.Looking back now, I definitely should have made a move that first date, as there were plenty of signs that I was too oblivious to get. I know this is kinda pathetic honestly, worrying so much but I’m still trying to get back on my feet since me and ex broke up over a year and a half ago.

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Any constructive advice would be welcome.

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